Son hates my BA

by sharonmcc1979 20th March 2014, 7:29 pm

So my BA is booked for 25th May and It can't come soon enough! I had my son at 17 and I'm 34 now so u can imagine how many years I've wanted this! Thing is, my sons 17 now and he's disgusted by it. He's so angry and I'm finding it difficult to resolve. He's so independent and ambitious so he's not being a brat, he just hates the idea. Anyone else had this problem?? Xxxx:panic:

by Cheekymich 20th March 2014, 7:39 pm

Hi.

Mine is booked for the 4th may. I also have a 17 year old and he is fine about it... I told him that it is something I have wanted to do for years.
I don't understand why he is angry. Silly question but have you asked him why he is angry?? ...if it makes you happy then surely he should be happy....x

by sharonmcc1979 20th March 2014, 7:45 pm

I've had two bad relationships and he says it's going to attract the wrong men. I think he's just got this image in his head and he worries about m but I'm sure it'll be ok. I've asked him to comee to the next consultation with me, I think it'll put his mind at ease but I secretly hope he doesn't.... It's a bit weird haha xx

by Cheekymich 20th March 2014, 7:58 pm

Aawww he is looking out for his mum...bless him...are you happy in a relationship now??...I'm on my own with my son and we are quite close so think he knows how much I want mine...x

by LuciaH 20th March 2014, 8:38 pm

So sorry to hear this Hun. The problem a lot of people have with having a BA is that they all think we all want to have these huge boobs like you see on the topless models etc, and they have a pre conceived idea of how you are going to look. I think my eldest who is 11 1/2 had this too, and I sat her down and talked to her about why I was going to do it and showed her my rice boobs etc and she was really ok with it because I was open and honest with her. Since having my boobs done she won't look at them! I have asked her why and she said it's because they are not small anymore, lol.

Try chatting to him to make him understand that tour not doing it to look like Jordan used too and this is something you want to do for you and not a man. Xx

by sharonmcc1979 20th March 2014, 8:46 pm

Yeah we had a really good conversation and I think I made a little progress. No I'm not in a relationship, we split last a Easter after 8 yrs.
I'm in such a good place now and I'm doing it for myself no one else. I'm sure he'll come round! Xx

by Sahara1981 20th March 2014, 9:02 pm

It must be so difficult for u x

by Jenpops 20th March 2014, 9:09 pm

Maybe just reassure him that you won't be having them out on display all the time and it's for you and no one else x

by tigertonix 20th March 2014, 9:14 pm

Aww bless you, honey :( I wonder why he's reacting like this? I know he's your son and you will greatly take into account his opinion but you have to remember that you need this BA for you. If you had your son at 17 then it sounds like you've dedicated most of your life to him and have probably been a very selfless person since having him. If you want your BA, and it's going to make you a lot happier, then please go for it, babe. Your son probably doesn't know how much this means to you. Try to explain to him that you're not getting it done so that men can stare at your chest or so that you can become to the next Katie Price.. Tell him you need it done for your own self-esteem, confidence and happiness within yourself.

I really hope you resolve this soon, honey. You sound so lovely.

Take care and let us know how you get on when you speak to your son :) xxxx

by Jenpops 20th March 2014, 9:16 pm

Do you think he's worried what his mates will say or whether he's worried his mates might fancy his mum with new boobs? X

by Cheekymich 20th March 2014, 9:24 pm

I'm glad u are doing for yourself....I'm sure he will come round when he realises...good luck Hun x

by Cheekymich 20th March 2014, 9:26 pm

Ooo just had a thought....maybe u could join the may buddies section....I'm there all on my own waiting for potential deliveries of twins....hehe xx

by sharonmcc1979 20th March 2014, 9:35 pm

Thank u everyone xxx yes I'd love to join May buddies... Soon as I find out how...I'm on it lol xxx

by Dayzeee 20th March 2014, 9:41 pm

I have Had some issues with my boys they are 19 and 15 and when I first started talking about it they just laughed and took the mick Bcoz they didn't think I was going to actually do it! Now I have booked it whenever I mention it or my appointments they roll their eyes. My eldest said he loves big boobs but not on his mum! He's a bit of a joker... But I think he really means it, I have explained that I'm not going massive and that him and his brother and sister contributed in ruining them and I'm getting it done whether he likes it or not, he's still at the eye rolling stage hmmm... shrug

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by tigertonix 20th March 2014, 10:02 pm

Hahaha Dayzee that made me laugh :) It's great that you've decided to do this regardless if your sons will be embarrassed or not. Afterall, you're still your own person and you need these boobs for you :) I'm sure your sons will love to see you happier after having it done :) xxx

by sharonmcc1979 20th March 2014, 10:47 pm

That's been my only progress when I sat down with him and talked about the breast feeding sag! He came around abit and was like, oh ok I kinda understand that.
I'm a very strong minded person but not ambitious, no travelling or business plans but I know what I want. I'm single, no morgage, I work 50 hrs a week and I love my son.... But this is for me! Xjxx

by **Charlii** 21st March 2014, 9:54 am

Sounds silly, but maybe put some rice boobs in for the day and see if he even notices! Then you can sit down and say look, theyre not going to be huge, theyre not going to be for anyone else other than me.

It does sound like he's looking out for you if you've been in a couple bad relationships. Don't forget he's probably terrified of losing you too - you're his mom, and you are voluntarily putting yourself under the knife, that's got to be scary for any kid old enough to understand it. All you can give him are the facts. Maybe show him/leave lying around some stats on GA, let him know the risk factors involved. And like you said, its for you, so at the end of the day he can accept it, or deal with it.

Also, you can tell him from me that Mr Sulaiman is very good! :ok:

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