Blooming men!!

AGHHH!! my other half has been really supportive with my decision to have my BA done, as he knows how much they get me down since breastfeeding both of our daughters. then today he tells me that I should not have them done as he wont be able to cope with other men staring at my boobs!! I have told him that they probably wont look much different than what they do now in clothes as i live in the 2 sizes bigger bras and as I am only telling a very few people then no one will even realise what I have had done.  My new Avi is me in a 34D asda 2 sizes bigger bras so they look fab in this, but when I take it off they are just empty sacks of nothingness! 

Then he tells me that he has told loads of his male friends that I am having it done as he thinks its really cool!?!

Just want to scream and bang his head of a wall right now!

Aw bless, maybe he's just trying to voice his concerns. Men are weird and although he seems to know you want it he is also nervous about any male attention you may get. Just keep reassuring him and he'll be a little less weird.

Thanks hun, I hope so. I keep telling him that I am not going to be going out flashing them off to everyone and start wearing low cut tops etc.  I can't believe he has told loads of his friends and even some of our customers at work! (we work together).  I am so cross with him. xx

Babe, he's your man and he's obviously very worried that you're going to be getting lots of male attention.. It's natural, honey! If he were to get an operation that gave him six pack abs i think you'd be worried that other girls might give him more attention.
Just drill it into his head that this is purely for you and not for anyone else! :) He'll come around, babe, when he knows how down you're getting! This should be an exciting time for you and him so let know how concerned you are of his current thoughts!

Take care, babe xxxx

My fiancé was/is worried. He was saying that I'm going to leave him once I've had them done etc.
Just got to reassure him and explain again and again y u want them done.

I hadn't realised but my fiancé has stopped saying it, clearly went in finally then! Lol x

Men... Nothing but pain in the backside :P
He is obviously stuck in two places. One.. He wants to be a lads lads and tell everyone so they can be like wow lucky boy you are. But then he doesn't want people to notice at all on the other hand because you are his and he doesn't want people to look. Just reassure him. Most men don't think things through very well. It's hard on you but it will be effecting him too. Just make sure you show him some love and make him feel better about it all. Xx

Aw I'm sure when it's all done he will be fine

I'm lucky my.husband was unbelievably supportive, thankfully having needed a reop I needed him.100% with me xx

But maybe he is just proud of you having it done babe? Hence he is telling everyone. If he was ashamed or didn't approve - he would keep his mouth shut.

Also he is likely to be worried about the whole procedure and needs a friend to talk to.

My partner told his brother without asking me first but he needed someone to talk to too and express his concerns as he didn't want to worry me as he knew I had my fears anyway. And he was definitely not worried about male attention ;) It was more worry for me and the procedure hun.. Men are from Mars and the way their brains work are different. Sometimes rather inconsiderate and tactless.... 
He should have asked you first whether you would be ok with him telling other people (but my OH never asked me that either!) 
xxx

It's great that your partner is being supportive. However, certain things should remain private and he shouldn't be discussing your breasts with his friends. Obviously they know now, but perhaps explain to him that you'd appreciate that he keeps those sort of things private moving forward.

Don't worry about his last minute jitters, it's totally normal and just a bit of insecurity on his part. My husband was very supportive, but was also a little worried by male attention. To be honest our relationship has got stronger Post Op, i'm so much more confident and this has made all aspects of our relationship better. 

You are likely to get a bit more male attention, but your partner will soon realise that this doesn't matter because you're with him. I bet he will be as proud as punch!
And don't worry about showing them off a little bit..when i felt like that my mum said "you don't buy a new car and keep it in the Garage"   !

Good luck and enjoy this wonderful journey xx

tigertonix wrote:Babe, he's your man and he's obviously very worried that you're going to be getting lots of male attention.. It's natural, honey! If he were to get an operation that gave him six pack abs i think you'd be worried that other girls might give him more attention.
Just drill it into his head that this is purely for you and not for anyone else! :) He'll come around, babe, when he knows how down you're getting! This should be an exciting time for you and him so let know how concerned you are of his current thoughts!

Take care, babe xxxx

Thanks Tigertonix, I do keep telling him that I am doing this for me and how much better I will feel about myself and the way that I look. Have also told him that these boobs will also be nice for him too to have a play with, hehe.  I am sure he will come around. xx

Sahara1981 wrote:My fiancé was/is worried. He was saying that I'm going to leave him once I've had them done etc.
Just got to reassure him and explain again and again y u want them done.

I hadn't realised but my fiancé has stopped saying it, clearly went in finally then! Lol x

He did try that one on me too Sahara, he said what happens if you get the BA and then use it to go off with someone else! I did tell him that I choose to be with him and have been for the past 13 years and if I wanted to be with someone else then I would have a long time ago.  He seemed to be ok with that one.

So glad that your fiance has stopped saying it hun. I just dont think men understand how us women feel. x

kati1236 wrote:Men... Nothing but pain in the backside :P
He is obviously stuck in two places. One.. He wants to be a lads lads and tell everyone so they can be like wow lucky boy you are. But then he doesn't want people to notice at all on the other hand because you are his and he doesn't want people to look. Just reassure him. Most men don't think things through very well. It's hard on you but it will be effecting him too. Just make sure you show him some love and make him feel better about it all. Xx

Your right chick, men don't think things through like us women do.  I have been trying to tell him that they are not going to be super duper huge and they wont look much different in clothes to my 2 sizes bigger padded bras do at the moment.  He will calm down and relax soon - I hope!. xx

tinkerbell24 wrote:Aw I'm sure when it's all done he will be fine

I'm lucky my.husband was unbelievably supportive, thankfully having needed a reop I needed him.100% with me xx

That's fantastic Tink, what a wonderful husband you have. xx

That's exactly it hun, because we compensate for having none we wear super padded things that make us look 'normal'.. so when people see us after our op, it looks similar... but this time it's just us :D
I'm sure he'll be fune hun and good luck :D xx

kdeee wrote:But maybe he is just proud of you having it done babe? Hence he is telling everyone. If he was ashamed or didn't approve - he would keep his mouth shut.

Also he is likely to be worried about the whole procedure and needs a friend to talk to.

My partner told his brother without asking me first but he needed someone to talk to too and express his concerns as he didn't want to worry me as he knew I had my fears anyway. And he was definitely not worried about male attention ;) It was more worry for me and the procedure hun.. Men are from Mars and the way their brains work are different. Sometimes rather inconsiderate and tactless.... 
He should have asked you first whether you would be ok with him telling other people (but my OH never asked me that either!) 
xxx

He does seem to be rather proud of me having it done as he does know what it means to me, but I am gutted that he has told so many of his male friends without asking me. I think you right about men being from Mars, I dont think I will ever understand how they think. 

I have gone through everything with him and he seemed ok with it all and he has said that he will take time off work to take me and stay at a local hotel to bring me home the following morning.

I am sure he will come round in the end.  Maybe I should get my rice boobs out again and give him a thrill.  

MissCET wrote:It's great that your partner is being supportive. However, certain things should remain private and he shouldn't be discussing your breasts with his friends. Obviously they know now, but perhaps explain to him that you'd appreciate that he keeps those sort of things private moving forward.

Don't worry about his last minute jitters, it's totally normal and just a bit of insecurity on his part. My husband was very supportive, but was also a little worried by male attention. To be honest our relationship has got stronger Post Op, i'm so much more confident and this has made all aspects of our relationship better. 

You are likely to get a bit more male attention, but your partner will soon realise that this doesn't matter because you're with him. I bet he will be as proud as punch!
And don't worry about showing them off a little bit..when i felt like that my mum said "you don't buy a new car and keep it in the Garage"   !

Good luck and enjoy this wonderful journey xx

I couldn't believe it when he told me that he had told some people, and then said that he had told some of our customers too! I was so cross with him.

I know a few other girls that have had BA and asked him if he stares at their boobs when ever he sees them, and he said no why? He did not even realise that they had even had a BA.  

I have told him that he should be proud because if I do get attention then to feel extra lucky that I am his and no one elses.

I love your mums saying, that is fab. x

Thanks Kati,  I am sure he will come round again and be fine about it all.  I am supre excited about it and can't wait to finally have them done after all the years of wanting them. xx

Well he seems to have calmed down now after much reassurance.  He sat last night on his Ipad looking at boobs and showing me asking me if mine would look like them!

Glad he's calmed down babe. I think it's most partners get a bit worried about it! It wasn't long ago my partner said something jokingly like “ I hope you don't leave for someone super hot!” And today he was like, I'm so excited for you to get then done!

They don't know where their heads are at most il of the time but I'm sure they mean no harm!! Xx

Thanks babe, think we have to accept that men are a different species to us superior women    and I don't think we will ever understand how they think. xx

Haha, you're right there babe! Xx