Going in alone!

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 1:36 am

So I had arranged for my youngest to stay with daddy number 1 (dad to my other 3) I'm worried about the lack of space at his.
He plans to put her in a toddler bed with her 6 year old sister. This was fine when he had her whilst my mum was dying but today I looked at the tiny bed and bedroom and realised she'd be sleeping under a shelf which hold a TV so now worried it could land on her. (they would top and tail what if she forgot and sat up)
I said I'd provide a makeshift bed but he says I'm being silly.

So I'm laying here worrying and have now decided that I'm not comfortable with it so she's not staying.

I'm going to call hospital Monday but their probably not going to allow kids in are they?

So now I've just sentenced myself to go in alone so scared
sick

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 1:44 am

Yes I'm one of those over bearing molly coddling sort of mum's and she's my fourth, imagine what I was like with my first!! Lol x

by tigertonix 16th February 2014, 2:40 am

Aw, babs, you don'g sound like a molly coddling mum at all! You sound like a responsible, caring mother who doesn't want to worry herself about whether her daugher is going to be crushed by a tv! Anyone would agree that that isn't a good set up for sleeping..
So where is she going to stay, honey? I doubt the hospital will allow kids but, then again, they might do?
And what do you mean you're going in alone? Do you not have anyone to go with you?
I hope you're okay babe xxxxx

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 7:21 am

My fiancé was coming with me and that's y she had to stay at dad1's house. But now he's going to have to look after hero I'm now going to the ba alone.

He'll come pick me up at 8pm with jessica as that's kickout time.

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 7:21 am

Her not hero!!

by greenbean1 16th February 2014, 8:08 am

Hi Sahara, just to say that i have 2 wee ones and decided best thing to do was say my goodbyes in the morn of BA, left them with their dad, went to work by train til half 2 then headed to hospital from there. I didn't go home first as i knew i might get emotional plus they wouldn't want me leaving again. I really enjoyed having thinking time to myself and actually treated it as a wee adventure just for me! Rarely get time to myself and bet youre the same? I had a couple hours in the hospital before my op and i just chilled with a book then it was BA time. My hubby came for me lunchtime the next day and my sis watched the boys til we got home. Would it be bit less stressful to leave the children with ur fiance and go yourself, u cant be stressing about the wee ones being cared for! Best wishes Di xx

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 8:13 am

I'm really scared about this whole procedure but the worry about her getting injured or worse is more scarey.
So going in alone x

I just hope I don't have to wait to long as I could run! Seriously I'm that nervous panic

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 8:14 am

Your really brave greenbean x

by Weddingbella 1 16th February 2014, 9:14 am

Hi Sahara I went in alone because everyone had to work. It actually worked out better. My mum had my little girl so I didn't need to worry about her. I didn't need to speak to anyone about what was happening as that would have made me more nervous (no goodbyes when you go to theatre). When I woke up I could just go up to my room and chill out until my fiancé arrived. It was quite relaxing. You sound like a great mum who always has her kids so take this opportunity to relax xxx

by greenbean1 16th February 2014, 9:18 am

Well said Wellingbella. Be nice for you to have 'me' time knowing your children are fine and you will be very well looked after. The whole thing is over before you know it and you will be heading home. We stopped for a pub lunch after i left hospital and i felt absolutely fine, no pain relief needed just v chuffed with my new boobies! Good luck xxDi

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 9:32 am

Hope so x

by tinkerbell24 16th February 2014, 9:40 am

Peter took me to.hospital for my first ba and left me and he brought our youngest to see me at night, second time I flew to Manchester on my own, no other choice

Take a magazine watch the tv etc when ur in ur room waiting to.go to theatre and u will be fine

Promise xx

by tinkerbell24 16th February 2014, 9:42 am

I have to say I think saying goodbye to even.my husband to go to theatre would have upset me and worried me more, so saying gdbye at the door and heading to my room.myself was easier, for me xx

by MissCET 16th February 2014, 9:52 am

Aw bless you, you're just a very caring mummy!

Please don't worry about going in alone, i went alone to mine and it was fine - in fact i quite enjoyed it!
It was turning into a bit of a logistical nightmare getting babysitters for my two babies. I decided the stress of worrying about them was worse than any jitters i had about the Op. Trust me, they will look after you and it will all be over before you know it . xxxx

by louise28 16th February 2014, 10:03 am

Aw Sahara you'll be so well looked after at Hos you'll be fine on your own. My Hubby took me in and sat in my room for a bit until I sent him away as I much preferred to be on my own as his loud biscuit munching was upsetting my pre op thoughts.x

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 10:15 am

Actually your right. Seeing her little face before I go in is going to make me bottle it. The idea that I could die and leave her would be too much at that moment.
So going to do it alone, I can do it and knowing that you've all done it helps x

by tinkerbell24 16th February 2014, 10:34 am

Plus we're all here for u.xx

by Weddingbella 1 16th February 2014, 11:00 am

We are all here for you. Without this board I honestly don't think I would have went through with it but I'm so glad I did because I never do anything for myself and I bet you will be the same xxx

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 11:37 am

I've got to say I'm really grateful that somebody recommend this forum to me.
I can't remember who it was lol

Not long now x

by **mirren001** 16th February 2014, 2:53 pm

I went alone and much preferred it as probably would have got more anxious had there been someone with me, so had hubby drop me off and visit once it was all over.
If you really need your partner there with you could you not maybe have your kids dad clear the shelf of the tv etc just for that one night so your wee one is out of harms way?
You'll be fine what ever you decide , the op etc is over really quickly and you'll be sitting up with your new boobs before you know it! Hug

XXX

by Sahara1981 16th February 2014, 3:33 pm

He would just put all the stuff back on their as soon as I left and I would just worry.
We've decided that my fiancé and jessica will drop me at the hospital and i would do the rest x

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