Feeling so :(

Feeling really crap about my boobs :( This is such a roller coaster ride the whole BA experience and I feel mine if just a bit negative.

Wish I had been more sure of the size I wanted as they just aren't big enough....I think what's making it worse at the mo is the fact bras are rubbish!!!! I have ONE bra from debs and it's just a total cheat, my boobs look really big, how I wanted them too cos it adds 2xboost and I am back to how I used to be only wearing this bra (I have 2 colours) and nothing else as nothing makes me look right so how I want to :'(

I have tried so many bras that I have seen people recommend on here and they do nothing for me....wonderbra, freya etc I get NO cleavage. Cursed with a gap that won't close and not even close to it!!!!!

One of the things I couldn't wait about having the BA was wearing pretty bras all the time and ooze confidence and not worry about padding... but I am still the same! My boobs are seriously rubbish!!!!!!!!!!!

Aww Zebra, sorry to hear you are feeling so low about your boobs. Hopefully its just a down spell and you will go back to loving them soon.
I think hat when I finally get into bras, I'll probably need push up ones to get them properly together. But at least now, I won't need chicken fillets too!
Have you seen this webpage? it was posted in another part of the forum and explains why some peoples sit close whilst others will always need a push... Hope it helps xx

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It's such a shame to see you aren't happy with your boobs. Initially I was disappointed with the size so I know how deflating it can feel.

You are still early PO with changes to go through, it's possible as they soften you will find it easier to get good cleavage BUT some women do struggle depending how far apart their breasts are naturally.

Try and see things in a positive light rather than just looking at faults, easier said than done though as I think we're all guilty of scrutinising our boobs! X

Sorry you aren't happy. Do you thnk you would of been happier if you went bigger? That wouldn't of made the gap any smaller hun if you have a wide sternum, which it sounds like you could have.. You're still pretty early post surgery and they can still change, have they dropped and fluffed fully yet?

I would speak to your ps at your 6 month check Hun just to explain how you feel xx

Oh zebra!!! .. Are you just feeling like this today? Just think why you had BA in the first place, sure you love them more than you did before?
Us females hey were so up and down with our bodies arnt we!!! Have you got a picture trail? I can't remember who's I've seen and who's I haven't. your such a good size.
Sending you hugs chick xx

I know your probably bored of recommendations. I posted a link a few threads down about the bra in my avi, maybe try it as it really pushes mine together. One of my Freya's doesn't really push them together but my Freya jet does. Sorry your feeling down, I've said before they look great in your avi xxxx

Sweetie, he majority of us who have a BA ALL cheat with a padded bra when they want a bit more oomph!

Pictures you see on avatars here are chosen by each of to show the 'best' of our boobs, so what you're seeing is just as much an illusion as the cheat you're using in your padded bra.

You really should try to stop looking for the negatives you feel you're finding about your BA babe. I too have a wide gap, I don't have a natural cleavage by no means, but with the right bra, just like yourself I create a decent one - that's good enough for 'me' though.

You have to find your own happiness in what you have lovely and make the best of what you've got. Anyone who goes into having breast augmentation believing all the things us women do to make the best of our boobs will all be over like the flick of a switch after having a BA is kidding themselves hun. What you're experiencing with trying to create a certain look the majority of us experience it too, but the majority of us are ok with that.

If you really don't think you're ever going to be ok with what you have lovely then maybe start saving now for your next BA to give yourself something positive to focus on.

On the plus side sweetness, its far better to be smaller than expected than larger, at least then if you aren't happy its a mere replacement to get what you want when you can do it... But those feeling their boobs are too big, its more scars that they may not have ever wanted to get a look they'd feel comfortable with.

So chin up zebra.... You CAN get the look you want with the right bra and that's not a bad thing hun. When you look at what you had before and what you have now, the difference will be HUGE so if you want BIGGER having that little cheat to achieve it ain't such a bad thing is it lovely. Xx

join my club.... mines isnt so much the size its the projection. ive even said to peter im considering asking my surgeon can i have a bigger projection xx

ive seen ur pictrail.but and i think they are a gd size for sure xx

The gap between my boobs didn't allow my boobs to come together in any type of bra either at your stage post op. I had to use bras that were too small in the cup with the gel inserts to help push them together. The porblem with bigger cup bras is they have less padding, so they don't add that much to your boobs but they do help give them a push in the right direction. If I want mine to look big and pushed together then a gel bra is the best way or a wonderbra in a size or two too small.

Hey hunni u probably still need more time for them to drop and soften. But i can understand how u feel theres nothing more frustrating than feeling not right. But i love how cookie put it that a least u can dress them up to look bigger and if u really felt u needed to u could have them made bigger. I have to have 340cc and cant go bigger because of my chest measurements which does annoy me but nothing i can do. Im sure in time your cleavage will come together, but can i ask could u push them together before i only am a size A but i can push them together. xx

If you dont mind knacking a few bras i tend to spin mine round so that the middle part is twisted and your boobs sit closer together but even i have to do this and im pre op so please dont be disheartened babe. For what it is worth i think you are a great size and have a gorgeous cleavage! And your boobs even look more natural than mine haha. I think you have wonderful shape and i think sacrificing a few ccs to not get the posh spice look is well worth it =D look at a pre ba pic and then look down and feel damn proud of those new twins ;) x

Oh hun i feel your sadness, after building an image in my head of what i want , I've been told that because my breasts are naturally far apart i won't have cleavage without a good push up bra.
Just remember it can take upto a year for your breasts to settle and drop completely.
I hope you start to feel more positive soon hun! X x

Hey lovely lady....
Gutted when i read this post.....i have not been on here much...your boobies are the exact same size as mine and if i wanna make them look bigger i get a extra padded bra...omph them up a bit more...at the moment mine are changing again, i'm loosing that side square look my lefty has dropped more looks like a proper booby shape..lol im sorry i can not help or say more....
except sending you all the girlie love i have......chin up..

Avi looks amazing babe xxxxx

Thanks for the lovely replies ladies

xxx

how are you feeling now lovely xx

Much the same really but don't wanna just come on and moan too much anymore so won't. Feeling blue, tis all. How's you Tink? x

Zebra hun I'm sending you big hugs really I am!

Are you considering a reop?xox

Aw. thank you. Yeah....need to pay these off over the next 3 years till I can even think about another one, even then though I don't think I'll afford it then! My whole lifes a bit messy right now and my emotions are all over so I guess prolly why taking it out on my boobs too. x

zebra1984 wrote:Much the same really but don't wanna just come on and moan too much anymore so won't. Feeling blue, tis all. How's you Tink? x

Please don't ever feel that you can't express your unhappiness zebra. we're here for you babe and its when members need us most that this forum is at its best.

So please put yourself first here zebra. If you need to vent, cry or just chat about how you're feeling, please know that NO-ONE will ever think you're moaning.

In good times and in bad we pull together here hun. You've been there me and many other girls who may have needed a lift at some point in their recovery, so please hunni.... Let us be there for you now

Sorry to hear your feeling rubbish Hun, your boobs are sill pretty new and you will learn to love them and dress them. Even if it's with a double padded bra , at least you have some Boobage to play with. the size you were given would probably have been the biggest anyway. As I've said I had 380cc 1st ba and that was the max they could fit in!

Don't feel disheartened Hun, I think even those with Bas still use some padding in bras and use wonderbras, size too small to still give that look were after.

Hun even now I still have a big gap, I can push them together more now but even in a bra I don't have that cleavage I have to use my arms to push them together like in my avi.! I will always have a natural gappy cleavage and there's nothing that's going to change it unfortunately even with bigger boobs sometimes it can exaggerate a gappy cleavge.

Embrase your boobs hunny, they look gorgeous and theyre a great size. Don't focus on the negatives you see, look at all the positives.

Sending massive hugs your way x

Hey hun, how are you feeling? I hope you're feeling more positive now hun