Bad day :(

Woke u p this morning after a half dece nt nights sleep and thought it was going to be a good day.. Didn't take any pain killers til 11am as I had walked the pooches and it was a but much.

My dd started her period on Sunday (day after my op!) and has been a nightmares nit going into details but she's disgusted me... 3 days in a row I've been scrubbing things, this morning I went into her hole of a room and I just couldn't take it so i wrote her a note and took her iPod which is her pride and joy... Resting all afternoon until I get a call saying my rents going up... Que tears!!

DD comes home and goes into vile teenage tirade at me slamming stuff shouting kicking you name. It... And. Then comes. This "you only had a tiny operation mum and you're so selfish you chose to have it not like you're sick or anything I've done everything (sure all mums get this LIE lol) you've done nothing, like always you're evil I hate you, wish you'd not come back" we'll I just burst into tears..she tried to run out the house so I had to run fast and lock the door and I feel like I've now strained something I'm in absolute agony, can't get comfy and p ret to much had enough.

I know it's post ga blues and having a little cow for a child but I'm so upset and I hurt. She's gone to my parents now because I think I would of done myself serious damage if she'd carried on :( it really hurts! Don't know what to do.. Don't want to take painkillers because they are giving me major belly ache!!!
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Maybe some paracetamol?
Don't get too upset about what she said teenagers say horrible, hurtful things that they don't mean all the time (coming from someone that only stopped doing this 4years ago) I now have an 18month old girl and dreading this!
Lots of rest, hope you feel better soon xx

Aww hun, I'm so sorry to read this. You poor thing. This is the very last thing you need at the moment. I guess now you've had surgery (P.S. Not a tiny operation, it's a massive deal even if it is elective), you can put yourself first. Try not to worry about your daughter for the time being because you don't need any more stress, just focus on relaxing and recovering and if you can let someone else take her for a while, use this opportunity. Hope tomorrow is a better day xx

aw lovely teenagers can be so horrid. god my seven year olds like this just now!!! maybe sit her down and talk about why you had the op and explain shes a great help around the house etc??? hope u feel better soon xx

Bless your heart, teenagers can be so cruel babe, but raging hormones can often make people react in ways they really don't mean, so don't look too much into what she said lovely.... Years from now you'll both probably sit and have a giggle over what happened today

I think the majority of us have done something to pull our new boobies and hurt ourselves during our recovery babe, but just keep an eye on it. Keep it well supported and try and and as little upper body movement as you can until you feel better lovely. Xxxx

Hugs, just relaxe as best you can.

Doing something for yourself is not selfish it's allowed mums are people too.

She's vile! She doesn't help around the house I still have to bath her and wsh her hair, am hoping shell stay at my parents for a few days because I think I'll end up letting rip if she starts again! I'm laying on sofa propped up.. My feet are unusually cold tho.. Got a dog in each and not warming up!

But fed up if the nipple burning its really annoying and I know I'm healing because I'm itching!

Teenagers are a breed if their own

How old is your daughter Kuruk?

Glad you got your feet up and are resting now hun, kids can be truly nasty at times we all have moments like that with our kids (or will do eventually!) my eldest is ten months of official teenagedom but senior school had changed my lovely helpful polite boy into a rude sullen misery lol. We all done it and came through the other side ok! Don't take any of what she said to heart hun they all lash out with words. Hopefully she'll be back from your parents with an apology xx

Im sorry to hear this kuruk, thts awful My other sister thts studying away was like this..not the one I posted about today. Doubt you'll get any sympathy, you were right to get her to stay with your parents, least you can rest better. Go easy on yourself. Ive had my mum tell me to keep looking for a job and try to set me up with someone and i dont want to know, its been 2 weeks and i have to put up with this pestering and my sister. Ive kind of had enough myself.
I don't know with teenagers they have a mind of their own, just look after yourself xx

Awwww sounds awful hunni, but like every one said it will pass just would of been better to not have it while recovering. Im dreading my BA my little boy is 6 and causes me agro every night at moment. Then my 8 month old is very constant not laid back at all. Would just be nice if there was a magic wand for desperate times. Chin up hun try rest and take your paracetamol regular it really helps xxx

Aaaaaaaw sending big hugssss hunni :)
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She's 12 but iq of 18 year old and common sense of a gold fish! She goes to an all girls school and thinks she's 15 apparently I am very unfair lol

Feeling a bit happier today I was never as vile as her. 14-17 I was rude but not to her extent my parents would of chased me with a slipper! Called my sister and she was cracking up because my dd is so nice when people are around... I recorded her lol should upload onto fb!

Can't really offer advice but I am sending a hug your way flower xx

I know what you mean hun, she needs to know its unacceptable to behave like this. My sister is just as bad shouting and swearing and she is 23!
They start to go beyond the age of changing and settle in their ways but yours is 12 so you still have time to mould her into a sensible adult, you can do it. Dont forget to give yourself time in the process. Xx

Kids are disgusting! I'm horrified she's so selfish!

My dressings look gross round the outside like a dirty old plaster.. Yuck! Monday can't come quick enough!

Children are awful especially teenagers, I'd hate to be a teenager now. All that pressure from school to achieve those A* grades, pressure from friends pressure to fit in and conform, to act and think older than they are, and all those hormones. not knowing if I was coming or going.

Sometimes they just can't cope and take it out on those closets.

Glad you're feeling a little better today xxx If it helps most us lucky ones with teenagers go through similar!! My daugher fortunately was ok, she's now 18 but my son whos 16 can be really hurtful and VERY selfish at times, some of the text messages he's sent me in the past have been HORRID. The good thing about text's is that you have them there in writing!! I keep them then show him when he's in a good mood - it makes him feel bad and he apologizes, sometimes!!! I watched a programme on tv a few years ago about the chemical changes going on in teenagers heads, it was basically saying alot of it is out of there control and likened it to going through menopause - so i think when the time comes, i'm going to be a right pain in the bum and make him suffer a bit!!!!!! Anyway just wanted to reasure you you're not alone on that front xxxx

I also have a teenage boy of 13 and have been getting the usual teenage crap from him, worst mum ever etc, sends me horrid texts, doesn't help whatsoever in the house, usually I get myself so stressed out with him but since I had my op 19 days ago any time he starts playing up I just ignore him, it hard lol but I just need to tell myself not to let him stress me out, think all teenagers are the same to a certain extent and the phase will pass eventually x

Thanks ladies its so lonely at times.. My parents live down the road but think she's perfect and my mum just throws it back in my face that I was a madam

It's all normal behaviour. My 12 yr old son threw a strop as I can't pick him up from after school club and he has to get the bus home (he would normally get a bus at school finish time but I would pick him up on my way home from work from clubs!) despite it only being short term it is the end of the world yada yada yada! He is glued to his blackberry/Facebook/iPod normally and only comes to me to moan or coz he wants something! Kids!!!! Hope you have a better day today :-) xx

I blame technology I didn't have anything til I was 15 and then I was only lucky enough to get a game boy coz mum got them cheap!!

Oh yes certainly! Bbm is my nemesis it drives me mental it goes in from early morning to late at nite!!xx

I can honestly say I was a living nightmare as a teenager, I was awful, I got chucked out umpteen times, got locked out ad climbed in through windows, used to beat the living day lights out of my brother and leave for days on end.
I spoke to my mum like **naughty word** and I would honestly have said anything to get my own way and didn't care how much I hurt her.
I was working from 13 so my parents cudnt even threaten t take money off me.
Then one day my mum said I woke up and my hormones had levelled and I was a different person.
I hate how much I hurt her now and she's so good to me and the kids
My daughter is the living embodyment of me and my mum loves it and is waiting till she erupts with baited breath :)

my daughter is a horror in the house but to the outside world and school and angel so much so the head mistress laughed at me when i said i needed to have a word with her about her naughty behavouir

she will be at the end of Jan and we now have a reward chart, she starts of with 9 stickers and get some taken off for miss behaving, cheek etc and she needs 3 on the end of each day to get a special sticker and needs 4 special stickers at the end of the week to take to school to get house points



The school have been a great help with us xx