Embarrassment

I'm actually really scared to tell people that I'm having this op. I've told my closest friends and a few people at work but I really tbh need to tell everyone at work as I will be off for over 2 weeks and I'm sure they will notice when i come back that I have boobs and plus I work in costa coffee and it's a very demanding job I'm worried I won't be able to do much when I go back. I've obviously told my manager which was very embarrassing for me and he also didn't really know what to say, awkward.
I just wondered if anyone else feels/felt like this?
I think living in Essex makes it 10 times worse as its so stereotypical and I feel like everyone is just going to judge me as being fake it really upset me and that's not why I'm getting it done at all.
Any suggestions ladies? Xx

It also worries me that because I'm the assistant manager they may loose respect for me

Why do you feel you 'have' to tell everyone?

This really isn't anyone's business but your own jasmine and you'll only lose respect from work colleagues if you allow that to happen. A boob job isn't going to do that at all.

You've told the people you want to tell and if you'd rather not discuss your boobs with anyone else sod them! You don't owe it to anybody to tell them you've had them done.

Your manager is aware of your reasons and will have to make exceptions for you when you return to work and if anyone makes any suggestive comments you're not comfortable with lovely tell them to get on with their job, mind their own business or you'll see them in the office! Simple as lovely.

If you don't stand for any suggestive comments and make it clear from day one your boobs aren't up for being the topic of discussion it soon blows over. And sure, they may talk behind your back for a while but so what hun.... If its not you its some other poor bugger and the next week it'll be some someone else. Xxx

I agree with Cookie, you shouldnt have to tell people that you dont want to and i dont think people would lose respect for you if you they did know. People choose to dye their hair to look and feel better and others choose boobs.

Yeah people will prob have a guess for a while but who cares chick, people always want to have something to talk about. I wouldnt try to stress about it too much. If someone brings it up just say excuse me but i dont think thats any of your business or something to that effect.

xxxx

I only told my mum my MIL my manager and 2 friends at work and no one else but people have found out along the way and tbh their reaction to me having it done has been fab.



Its noting to be embarrassed about honest, so dont tell anyone you dont want to also the hospital or clinic can give you a note to say that you can only do light work due to health reasons, I have got one and it doesnt say why on it just health reasons and I can have one up to 12 weeks no prob xx

I told my best mate and my mum dad and brother,
That's it!
Noone has even noticed lol :)

I did tell everyone, but you really don't have to if you don't want to. I managed to tell everyone in work by telling one person, the office gossip, job done lol.

It's really up to you who you tell and it is possible to cover them if you want to keep it to yourself. I told the wrong people and now everyone knows, it took some getting used to but now I feel really open about it and couldn't care less!

We all have our reasons for going through this, some people will understand some wont but it really doesn't matter. Take it all with a pinch of salt and remember who you are and why you're doing it, the opinions of other's shouldn't impact your own happiness and self esteem!x

Yeah I told someone at work I thought I could trust and she told the regional gossip do now all and sundry know. Thought "f it" and wore the lowest cut dress I own for my work do, if they're gunna talk they may as well have something to talk about eh!
I wish if kept my gob shut, thought it would be really noticeable but with work clothes it isn't at all, and I've gone up 6 cup sizes. I think unless someone is a right perve and states at your boobs all day anyway, then they ain't gunna know. And cookie's right, it ain't their bloody business, and anyone subordinate (or senior!) ain't gunna have a leg to stand on if they treat you differently. X

Thanks girlies you have all really helped a lot :) I think I will just keep it to myself and just wait for the reaction when I return to work!
But thank you all so much your comments have made me look at it in a completely different way :) xx

Yeah try not to worry about other people's opinions, as long as you are happy with your decision that's all that matters! :-) xx

I have just told my side of the family, a few very close friends and my mother in law(as she had to look after the kids the day of my op). She has chosen not to tell the rest of the family on her side and i agree with that, unless they ask. at New year I had a low cut dress on but just looked like I had a really good push up bra on....my sis in law even said she wished she'd worn her dress that made her show a bit of cleavage....no one suspected a thing! If they ask i will tell them, I was worried too about people judging me but those I have told are really supportive and think I've done the right thing! X

Hi, I'm also from Essex and I don't think ppl will judge you.
I've told a couple of ppl about the surgery but won't be shouting it from the roof tops. I work with men but I think I've faked it enough for them not to notice.
If it looks obvious ....then I'll get in before they comment. Stops gossip when you've already spoken about it.

Aw I know the feeling!! The people I've had to tell who I was worried about have all shocked me, Been really supportive, even if they wernt sod them, your body your life, most people will only be jealous anyway xx

Thanks for all the support girls! I just really think I am going to have to tell people at work because there's only 10 of us and its a very busy store so I am normally running around lifting heavy trays etc and I think everyone will immediately notice that I'm unable to do so! But I think I will just leave it until after the op when the start questioning it then tell them xx

I went to my friends party last week and it got brought up n quite a few conversations with random people, they didn't mean any harm but I kind of didn't plan on telling EVERYONE but I suppose I didn't really tell people not to tell anyone because I didn't want to make a big deal of it, I wasn't embarrassed just kind of didn't know what to say xx

I told most people and people at work... only a matter of time until everyone knew! lol! I announced on my FB too and I don't care, I am proud of it and not really bothered who knows!

Cosmetic surgery is so common now I don't think people are really that bothered, most people know someone that's already had a breast enlargement so it's not really that big a deal.

hey, i have told only a few close friends, my parents and,obviously my partner, i havent told anyone at work and will not do it, i think it's nobody's business

although i do worry a bit about people noticing it and gossiping but im planing to "hide" them as much as i can in the first days with scarfs or loose tops, at least until i get used to them lol

you can do that and about not doing so much effort at work, you can always say you just had a flu or something and dont have that much energy! you dont have to tell them the truth about why you cant run or carry heavy things for a few days, you can make up a million reasons :)

Yeah I could do but I just think people will immediately notice because I have a set uniform I can't wear things to hide it xx

Don't worry, be proud and ignore other people x

Thanks zebra :) I will try my best I just find it so hard to talk abouts it loud. Major lack of self confidence but I'm sure ill learn! Xx

Aw chick think we are all in the same boat with the confidence! You will start to feel better... I didn't feel that different but a few people have said they think I seem different and more confident! I didn't even notice! That day you get your first bra on and wear a nice top, you'll feel top of the world! :) xx

aw hun i know how you feel, i've told loads of people that i want a BA but don't think i'll tell them when i actually have it done. I was worried about work because i'll need 6 weeks off cos i do loads of heavy lifting so i'm hopefully going to bring it forward to my uni easter holidays so that when i go back to work full time in may they'll be settled and nobody will notice. I've already had to say I won't be coming back to work over easter but i've used the excuse of uni work. I'm not ashamed of BA at all but don't want to be the work gossip y'kno! xxx