BOOBS: Why such a potent symbol of 'womanhood'??!!

Hello ladies

Hope you're all having a good day

Having only had my ba 10 days ago and beginning, just very,very slowly, to feel like I just might have finally joined that ultra-feminine, sacred club of boobiehood afterall, was just wondering why (not just us here but pretty much universally) we revere and covet full and shapely boobs, when in all reality ladies' breasts naturally come in all shapes and sizes, and yet so many of us reject the ones we were born with for not fitting the stereotype?

For me they symbolise womanhood at its most beautiful and nurturing, as well as looking hot n sexy obviously . It was also about wanting to feel feminine like all the other girls/ladies on the street (tis funny I never seemed to see small-chested ladies , I thought I was the 'only one', and a freak of nature ) I always thought my partners would be secretly lusting after a shapely 34D breast rather than what I had, even when they pleased to the contrary!!! I found it particularly difficult from the early 90's onwards in the advent of 'lad mag' culture, did anyone else experience this?

I really wish I had considered a ba earlier on in my adulthood as it may have saved me a lot of insecurity and unhappiness, but as someone has already reminded me on here in another post, better late than never eh... so here's to lovely boobs just the way we want them!!!

Would be interested to hear your thoughts!

xxxxx

*That should be "pleaded to the contrary", not pleased :o :)

I agree with everything you say, all my mates are.. Oops were bigger he he! I thought about it for years. My H didn't want me to have it really, said I was fine, but they were just muscle and bone, flat and upset me so much that I couldn't look in the bathroom mirror. Yes better late then never! I am 41 !! But 21 in the brain! I feel so feminine and womanly! And actually look at my body all the time and love it! I have had dual plane unders, and can't believe how big they are! Get in there!

Hi

I second what you said , I was 44 when I had mine done am very happy with them even though I need revision surgery , wish I had the means to do it when I was younger but as you say better late than never .
Xxx

For me it was about looking young and feminine. I'm 28 and had the boobs of an 80 year old after losing 5 stone. It was important to me as I didnt feel sexy or young any more and I couldnt wear nice clothes to suit my age!!

I've never had body issues really, I had my kids, gained stretch marks, gained a little rounded tummy and went along with the ride as my body has changed from both having children and with age... I've just rolled with the punches really and learned to love whatever the big man thought to give me.

But one thing I've never loved and after bringing up my kids knew I never would were my boobs. Throughout my life they've been a massive burden to me. Having only one sibling, a younger sister who I'm sure I left my share of boobs to in the womb really didn't help and to make matters worse i only befriended a girl who had a tiny figure and natural big boobs.... Lord how I envied those girls but I'd be damned if I'd ever let it show.

I would wear quite revealing tops when I was younger, regardless of my boobs and would shrug them off and pretend I was fine with them. This was my way of protecting myself. If I showed any sign of hating them, then others could possibly use that later knowing how much it would hurt. So I'd put myself through such pain to strap my iddy biddy boobs up to create an illusion of cleavage. I was a master with a bronzer brush creating the illusion of a rounded boob and I actually 'faked' my way through life with some women even asking me back then if I'd had a boob job... Oh if only they knew!

After being what I felt was a good daughter, a good wife and a good mum I thought it was time for me then. We had some savings put by and I can't say for sure now what triggered my decision but it was a sudden decision. One day I was talking about it, within a week I'd booked!

I didn't do my research when I had my first BA. Had I done that I think things might have been very different today. Instead I'm having revision surgery for the 2nd time.

Do I regret having a BA due to the complications I've had? Not for a minute!

Having a BA has literally been life changing for me. I don't feel like my boobs are 'fake' any more. They're mine and I love them! Xxx

A big hello to everyone i all haven't been on here for a while. This post got me thinking back about my reasons for having my BA. Firstly I have no regrets whatsoever. It is one of the best decisions I ever made. I like so many wish I had done it earlier to save myself alot of insecure years of stuffed bras but I didn't and the feeling insecure about my boobs part is definately over. Now I'm more concerned about everything else lol! I could do with a bit of botox here and a bit of lipo there. The boob job didn't magically fix everything but now I can't see the slightly wobbly tum cos my boobs stick out too much!

Im glad you found us now lovedove

Sorry to read you and your OH argued too... i think just as we women lost out in the boobie department, some men in turn lost out when tact was given out!

I had my first BA when i was 38 hun, I wanted to go into my forties feeling fabulous! and I certainly did that I'm 44 now and having a BA was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I dont think i do regret not having had my BA when i was younger... I think its the experiences I had that made me stronger and to be able to show more compassion.

I know comments are still made behind my back about my boobs, that hasn't changed. instead of being about how small my boobs are, its now about how big they are.

We women can never really win with some people but doing what makes YOU happy, rather than what you think might make others happy will aways make you feel like a winner inside. xx