3 weeks po - what will i be able to do??

Hi!

I'm going to be staying with my sister for a couple of weeks 3 weeks after my op. I would prefer not to tell her about it as she's got a lot of issues going on in her life right now - not good ones and i feel i would just be rubbing something really great and exciting (for me) in her face. Do you think I'll be 'healed' enough to keep it secret? Not only how my boobs will look but what I'll be able to do physically? She's going to be picking me up from the airport and i don't think I'm going to be able to lift my cases with out her help, but don't know what to tell her as to why!!!???

Would really appreciate some advice!
xxx

At 3 weeks you shouldn't be lifting heavy items or even doing too much (like hoovering)

I can only speak from personal experience as all out recoverys are different, but I would've found it difficult to hide it, as I was still quite uncomfy and had to be caredul when doing things. X

Maybe she will understand? And it will give her something else to focus on, of you told her?

Xxxx

At 3 weeks you won't be healed sweety. No lifting anything heavy for 6 weeks after, you'll be constantly in a sports bra also.

I personally would find it very hard to keep it a secret especially only after 3 weeks. She may be really understanding if you told her and approached it in a nice wAy or pre tell her so it's not a shock when your at the airport.

That just me though. I hope you can work it out :) x

Thanks guys, looks like I'm going to have to tell her - really can't stay at hers and sit there doing nothing while she does the cleaning, shopping etc and not help!!!! I feel really bad though 'cause she's going through hell at the mo with work and divorce. (and i know she wants new boobs but cant afford them right now). Also, thinking about it and knowing her she's probably got all these plans of things we can do while I'm there and maybe i just wont be up to them? (shame really 'cause we haven't seen each other for a couple of years - living in China, can't just pop in for a cuppa!) I'll have to put my thinking hat on and think of some way of spoiling her that will be OK for my recovery too. Thanks for the heads up xxxx Really this site is great, especially as I'm the other side of the world (feels like Mars sometimes!) When i read the posts its very reassuring, if not sometimes a bit scarey!! at least i feel more prepared for the op and what comes after. Thank you xx

You could say you have a bad back if you really wanted to keep your surgery from your sister. At 3 weeks post-op you'll be over the worst of your surgery. You'll be unable to lift, Hoover or anything else that's going to put pressure on your upper body, but your fine to do light chores such as polishing washing dishes, general cleaning if you wanted to help her out. The excuse of having a bad back will cover you for the rest.

Your boobs won't yet look 'normal' though, so you'll need to plan ahead wear baggy thirty, tops, I found draping a pashmina or scarf around my boobs helped hide mine.

If not telling your sister is really something you don't want to do you will be able disguise it. Like I said the bad back excuse is a really good one. One I've used myself. But... If you'd deep down really like to tell your sister, which I get from your post that you do, I think for your sister having something else to focus on other than her problems might actually help her rather than upset her... Maybe you can both discuss ways for her to start saving and having her BA too that she wants? With her being newly single, it might really help to give her a focus for something good and something positive for you both to discuss rather than her having to think about all the negatives she has in her life.

It's up to you babe. Yes, I think you can hide it, but the question is.... Do you really want to? Xx

Thanks Cookie, weighing all things up I think I will tell her - but keep the 'bad back' for the rest of the family! Xxx :)

Haha. That's what I did lovely. I only told my husband and kids when I had my second surgery, so any visitors or if I saw anyone out the bad back came in very handy! Xx