Confused, second thoughts??

Ok I know that this is propbably something that no one can really help me with but I'm starting to doubt my ba.

I had a hernia op on Friday and initially thought I would have to wait a year before I could go under ga again for ba, anyway the consensus amongst the medical professionals that I have spoken to is that I could in theory go for a BA in six weeks. Anyway the fact that its all becoming real and close, Im planning to have it done in the new year, has just opened up a whole can of anxiety for me.

My main worries are what if something goes wrong? Also I have two kids my daughter will be 3 in December so when I have them re-done she will be approx 13, thats a difficult time for a girl, I want to teach her to love and accept herself and how can I do that when i'll be on my second boob job. Also Im far from perfect but I am an ok looking girl, is it the wrong to go through such an invasive procedure when there are people out there with serious dissabilities etc. But despite all this I look at my boobs which are pretty non existent after breast feeding two babies and I really hate them, I look at people with good boob jobs and I think I want those so badly.

Sorry I really hope I haven't put a downer on things, all you guys look like you have great boobs from your pics but I just feel like I need to get it out there, I have thought of nothing else for days.

Thanks for reading xxx

Its normal to have doubts and these feelings. I lost 5 stone and my boobs were a mess. I booked my surgery in June and then I went on hols in July and I cried everytime I had to tuck all my loose skin into my bikini and spent the whole time looking forward to my op but still when I got home I thought "do I really need this" and "is it that bad" and I kept thinking about people that live with worse things like that Katie Piper with her facial burns from the acid attack. But then I realised I did still want it done it was a big issue for me and it doesnt matter what other people are going through this is your issue. I went ahead with my op but I was having doubts right up to the point where they put my under the GA. I can remember sitting on the anaesthetic table looking at the clock thinking "this could be the last thing I ever see" and when I dropped my daughter off before going for the op I thought "what if she never sees me again... how is she going to understand" I thought I was being so selfish but then I again realised that there is nothing wrong with being selfish. yes you might need a re-op when your daughter is a teen but thats like saying you could be run over by a bus when she is 13 and how is she gonna deal with that!! What I'm saying is you cant predict the furture and if you deal with it sensitively you shouldnt have a problem. I think there are girls on here who have had their ops while they have teenagers and I'm sure they can advise you. My daughter is 7 and I told her all what I was having done and the reasons and she just accepted it.

Dont worry about asking these questions its a difficult decision to reach. If you are interested I have a diary on here which explains my journey and my anxieties. The link is in my signature so reading that might help!

Thank you. I will have a read.

ITs such a massive decision to make isn't it? I go from thinking this is definately right for me to thinking why am I bothering all in one day! xxx

Why don't you wait until you're over the shock of finding out you can have your surgery so soon lovely. You don't HAVE to go through with this right away...

Take some time to adjust to the fact that you CAN have your boobs done 'if you want to' and then when it's all sunk in sweetheart make a decision based on what you feel would be right for you.

I doubt there's a mother here who hasn't shared the same anxieties as you right now hun... But it best to only ever book to have this surgery when you feel 100% ready. Now you your know you CAN have the surgery, there's no rush is there lovely.... xx

Really good advice, seems so simple but it sometimes just takes someone else to tell you.

Had a read of your diary 5stone down and you should feel amazing transforming yourself like that!

Thanks again girls.

xx

Its been a hell of a journey but I feel so much better about myself now!

Oh bless you I agree with Cookie possibily wait abit longer if you have just had a op and don't quite feel up to it. I also hated my boobs and by having them done it has given me back the confidence I never had so why shouldn't we do it if it makes us feel better about ourselves. I can see your dilemma about teenage girls but you can't predict how your daughter will look at things in 10 years time. I had my BA 5 weeks ago I have a 18 year old daughter, 13 year old son 12 year old daughter 11 year old son and 3 year old son. My 12 year old girl is very impressionable and very body aware and always in the bloody mirror! Lol but they all know and I haven't made a big deal out of it and they have all accepted it as if I had gone in for any other op. plus if your daughters only 3 she will not know any different as she's growing up she will always assume mum has big boobs so unless your going to go hugely bigger in 10 years time would she really need to know? Best of luck with your decision hunni xx