BA and violent situations

Hi ladies, I am new to this site but have been browsing the forum for quite some time and it's such a brilliant source of information and comfort !

I'm booked to have my BA on the 19th with Spire, Cardiff and will be having 300cc unders my only concern is that I work with a child who has autism and ADHD. I know that I could get 2 weeks off if I asked for it, but I also know that the child's mother will not cope alone for that length of time as the 6 weeks holidays from school are starting next week.

Violent and stressful situations do arise where physical restraint is needed and I am so worried that I will do myself injury but I have only asked for 1 week leave as I cannot bear the thought of her going through it alone

I am not worried about causing myself pain, but was wondering if you ladies would be able to tell me what long term injuries/disfigurements I could do to my new boobies

Thank you xx

I dont know for sure huni but you really cant be taking any risks with your new boobs this is your body and your health u r talking about, i know u want to help the mother out but isnt there anyone else who can help? anyone at all? u do need to be so careful my lovely. xxxx

Can you not get any additional support for when you return hun?

You really do need to be sooooo careful, in addition to this by returning 1 week PO you will still be struggling to do simple things whether you want to or not so I think physically you will find it difficult to restrain this person should you need to... I could barely pull up skinny jeans and I had overs.

You could risk opening your incisions which will still be very fresh at that stage, should that happen you could compromise your health and risk complications and/or infection.

Your breasts need to be VERY stable for generally 6 weeks to help the implant adhere to the pocket.

I really would discuss this with your surgeon or employer hun, you will need some kind of support from somebody else if you intend to go back to work so soon.

You could advise the Mother to request social services to provide support for the mean time. x

Id definitely stay away from any kind of situation like that while youre recovering, I understand how you feel in my work too, but its not worth risking yourself and causing long term damage? Is there anything you can do?

Can you try and get someone else to help her? You would be risking hurting yourself and needing even longer off work if anything was to happen, and that would be awful! I hope you can find a solution so you have a happy recovery! xx

You are not supposed to lift anything heavy for 6 weeks, or at least two to three weeks. You will have stitches holding your wounds closed, if you rip these stitches and re open your wound you could be in for emergency treatment and your aftercare probably wouldn't cover you, if it was your fault. There are plenty of complictions and if you are unable to get cover to rest while you are recovering I think you should re plan your BA for a time when you can take the time off to recover.

There would be no point in having your BA for them to look disfigured or worse than they did pre BA. You could also put your health at risk.

Hi Cazzi and welcome. Pammie is right in everything she said. You are really going to have to be so careful ,I mean even something as simple as lifting something just that little bit too heavy can cause damage. I think its wonderful that you care so much but harsh as it may sound, you are paying a lot of money for this op and your new boobies should be your main priority for at least the first few weeks and longer if poss. xx

Thank you everyone, I think I needed to hear it from those who have experienced the recovery as I was just putting it to the back of my mind pretending I could just deal with it.

She has no aid from family/friends and as I am employed privately there is no one to cover me. But as said there would be no point me getting injured and then being off for even longer, and thank you misf1 I had not considered that I may be breaching my after care.

I will explain it to her and perhaps she will be happy for me to have less of a 'hands on' role during melt downs while I heal. I really do not want to have to reschedule my op date but it would be better than the alternative.

I know this is probably a silly question but do you think being yanked along by the hand will be too much?

I dont know about being yanked along by the hand, depends how roughly. But I wouldn't have walked my dog a week after my BA (she used to pull).

Being yanked will affect your recovery hun, you really aren't to have any 'upper body' stress for 6 weeks post-op lovely.

Sounds like you're in a difficult situation being privately employed so you won't have cover to help you through your recovery. I know this is the last thing you'd want to hear babe, but for your own safety you just may want to think about this some more, maybe it's just not the right time for you to have this done right now? This is major surgery lovely and it'll be YOU that needs taking care of, so unless you can get that cover hun, you might want to consider putting your BA off for a while until you're in a better situation that will help you whilst in recovery, or at the very least have an indepth talk about the possibilities with your surgeon babe. xx

Hmm sounds like a tricky situation to me love, Cookie has sound advice as always. I understand that you feel guilty for this recovery period with this being elective surgery, but what would your employer doing you were long term sick? Your employer would have to find cover, and ultimately that is her responsibility as your employer. I would consider that it may take her longer to get something arranged, so if you feel badly about it then you could maybe postpone it for a time that she can. But it really is a case of 'light duties
For the 4 weeks back to work, (you should absolutely take the first two off!!!) and your employer legally has the responsibility to work around that I'd you give them a doctors note hunni. Also, I would think with the job being so physical you would need a risk assessment, as it will definitely affect your ability to restrain the child, and should a situation arise where that us necessary, is it really fair to your employer for you to be unable to provide the service that they expect of you? Hope this helps xxx

I think you need to be extra careful Hun as you don't want to hurt yourself and yur newbies, although at some point in the beginning you may feel 'fine' but your body needs time to adjust and cope with the implants. You have to let the scar heal and the implants need time to work there way to the pockets and by doing too much too soon could effect both of those. Although you feel guilty I'm sure the mother won't mind you taking a break from doing the heavy duty tasks. Being yanked may effect you as your having unders and I think 1-2weeks down the line you are still going to be very limited as to what you can do, it may cause unecassary pain for you to be yanked.

Hope this helps Hun x

I havnt got the strength in my arms to plump my pillows nevermind restrain someone hun and I am not feeling any pain at all I just litterally havnt got the strength xx

Not to encourage lying, but you could also tell her you're having back surgery and will need the time off, if you think she wouldn't be supporive of a BA, that's what I said at work so they'd understand why I was hunched over and shuffling along for the 3 weeks after... *I had unders as well and you really can't/shouldn't lift your elbows from your sides for a couple to 3 weeks anyway....

Good luck hunni!!

Hey lovely,

I totally commend you for what you do and for being so caring about this child and his mothers welfare, a friend of mine does a similar job and I know from her how rewarding the job can be, but also how difficult and physically demanding it can be on bad days when meltdowns occur.

I do have to agree with the ladies here however as I had unders and I had to get somebody else to lift my 10 month old sondoor 4 weeks which was very frustrating. In the 3rd week I was starting to feel a better and get a little sure of myself, and just by pushing something relatively light out of my way to open a cupboard, I pulled a muscle in my right boob and was in pain for another week.

You MUST look after yourself. After 4 weeks or so you will probably be ok but please don't compromise yourself before that. This BA is something YOU are doing for YOU and YOU must be responsible to yourself and take care of YOU!

Keep us updated xx

Hi,
I just wanted to say that what all the ladies have said above is correct. You shouldn't underestimate the procedure you are having especially with unders. I doubt you'll be able to provide the physical assistance required as you'll have internal bruising etc and you will be weak and very prone to doing yourself damage, and yes, I think being dragged along will be risky too.

You could say you have a bad back or dislocated shoulder if it is easier but your client's mum might even be fully supportive if you tell her the truth (I've been surprised and humbled by the response and support I've had from the people I've been brave enough to tell about my BA).

Maybe your client's mum could utilise a care agency for a few weeks to allow you the extra few weeks to recover? Whatever you decide to do I wish you lots of luck x

hi hun i m having unders and my surgeon has said i may need to stay in hospital for 2days! as apparently there is more ooze and stuff to drain after having unders, so i really dont think that after 7 days u should be exerting yourself, i hope u manage to get more time off for ur recovery xxx

I can't add much really apart from to echo what everyone else has said xx

Sorry hun but you really do need to think about taking more time out afterwards xx Even if you were there with an agreed 'less hands on' would you actually be able to stand back and not get involved...?

Good Luck xx

Hi Ladies, thank you for all of your advice. You're right of course, if I can not provide the assistance needed then there is little point in me being there. I will talk to her and see if she is willing to allow me the time off that I need to recover, if not then I will postpone my ba

I have thought about lying to her but I literally have nothing there so I think it will be pretty obvious why I am shuffling around lol! I have waited years for this, I'm sure a couple of months more won't harm me :)

Thank you xx

That's a very sensible approach Cazzi. When the time is right your boobs will be all the better for your wait sweetheart. xx