Boobs and kids??

Well I have two children one that's 5 and the other 5 months and although I have dad, friends and family for support I just wondered to other mums out there what did you find most difficult? I find it extremely hard to sit bk and let anyone else do anything in my house especially when it's my children but I am realistic and know I will need to rest, how did you all cope??
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My kids weren't little like yours when I had my first BA Charl, they were teenagers. But I found it very hard to sit back and let others do my cleaning. (I'm very anal about my cleaning) The loss of control that I had over my own home was awful, so I was banished from the house to prevent me getting up and doing things myself by getting me out and going for a walk whilst they did my housework for me. It worked cos it would all be done when I returned and the walk would do me good, not to my standards I might add lol. But I always told myself all the way through my recovery that the dust could wait, my boobs HAD to come first.

Don't get me wrong, I'd sit eyeing any dust or mess I might see and it would irritate me lol. But I sucked it in because I so grateful for all the help I was getting and when I was able, I attended the bits that bothered me most, slowly and steadily till I felt back to normal and again started cracking the whip around my house. haha.

With you having a 5 month old, you're going to have to take great care when lifting. if you can get help with lifting your little one for at least the first 2 weeks that will really helpful to your recovery. After the help has gone, you're going to have to be very aware when lifting the baby, holding the baby close and lifting with your legs, not your arms or back. You'll find your way sweetheart.... you have a sensible attitude so I'm sure you'll be just fine :thumbs: xx

I am the same about my cleaning cookie, if my partner try's to help I'm right behind him correcting or adjusting things, I really don't think I can help myself so a walk is a great idea... After I'd had my littlest I came home hoovered up and put some washing in straight away... I got very told off haha!

I have got lots of help lined up, taking daughter to school etc n mums got time of work ( she a gem ) I'll have to confined myself to my room till I'm better and caress the new additions haha
But thanks him great advice as always:)
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Hi Charl, I'm going through it at the moment, I'm 1 week post op and I've got a 10 month old. My husband is working from home and looking after the baby as well.

I'm the same as you, I need to have control over my house, my kids and my space, and at the moment I have very little.

I kind of told myself before surgery that I would need to take a step back and let the other half take control. It does drive you a bit crazy, the house feels messy, my sons routine keeps changing and my husband is trying to juggle work and parenting which is making him really stressed out (whilst I'm sitting on the sofa doing very little).

The only advice I can give really is to take a deep breath and just let things happen. Give the odd piece of advice or reminder when it's needed but try to let go of your role just for those few weeks knowing that your recovery is SO important and that things will be back to normal soon enough and you'll be bossing everyone around like normal again very soon

Good luck Hun xx

I've been thinking this, planning on my op in december as this is when mum is off work.. and other half is off after christmas so will have more help but will have an 18 month old and a 6 month old. I Dont think its going to be easy!xx

mais04 wrote:I've been thinking this, planning on my op in december as this is when mum is off work.. and other half is off after christmas so will have more help but will have an 18 month old and a 6 month old. I Dont think its going to be easy!xx

Your eldest should be walking independently by then so will make things much easier, but even so you're still going to have your hands full with two children so young The good thing with you planning for your BA so far away is that you have time on your hands to find help with child care.

The first 2 weeks you're definately going to need help sweetheart, going into the 3rd week is a small possibility too, depending on your healing, especially if you have partials, so rounding up any help you can get between now and then would make things a whole lot easier for you hun. The main problem you're going to have after week 2 is lifting. Other than that, you should be fine lovely. xxx