Were/are those who love you happy for you?

When you told those you love that you were/are planning to have a BA how did they take it? Were they supportive or angry at you?

When I first started talking about having a BA, my husband was so shocked, he still to this day doesn't feel I ever needed to have one and he did try to dissuade me from having a BA and asked that I speak to my parents about it, which I did as I wanted them involved in such a major decision too and it went down like a bag of sick .

My husband and my parents came up with every BA myth, every scrap of bad BA pictures, every sordid BA story, you name it they found it! haha but nothing deterred me from what I wanted to do, so I started to book consultations and told my husband it was up to him, he could either come with me and have some input after hearing the surgeon or not, it was up to him, well, he rescheduled every appointment he had that day to ensure he could be there with me, heeheeee... at first it was I think just to appease me thinking after I'd heard everything and it was becoming real that I'd forget all about it, but I didn't, I came home and discussed my BA even further with hubby and after hearing how effected I was about my boobs (I'd also had dents in my boobs after having tumours removed in my twenties) he said he wasn't happy but he'd support me anyway as he could see how much I wanted this. My parents were horrified! They still refuse to talk about it even today, they've never passed one single comment about them since I've had them done 5 years ago, theres always just 2 big elephants sat in the room with us hubby on the other hand has always been amazing. I know his concern was only because he cared for me and I know he'd love me boobs or no boobs, but I love me with boobs and thats all that matters to him. xx

How did/do your loved ones react?

I think I had a very classic response to my boob revelation. My partner said he loved me how I was so did nt think I should go ahead as anything could go wrong but would support me if thats what I wanted. Well you will probably guess what happened. When he saw them his eyes nearly popped out of his head !!! It was so funny. He loves them . My children said it was up to me and were not that bothered really.Bless, most of them are boys and did nt really want to discuss my boobies anyway lol.x

I expected my Mum to give me her standard response when I want to do something (like dye my hair, tattoo, piercing etc)... "it's your body, don't come crying to me when it goes wrong" or "you're fine as you are" etc.

She was the total opposite! She said she totally supported me 100% and could understand why I would want to do it because she's the same as I am, she's always felt self conscious and had she had money to do it at my age she would have.

She wanted to meet surgeon's and got really involved with research even looking on here occasionally before I joined! I've asked her not to look here anymore though as I don't want her knowing every single thing I discuss!

After my BA I think it really hit home for her why I'd had it done. I had serious issues with one being a cup size bigger than the other and she hadnt realised the extent of this nor its effect on my day to day life.

I'm only two weeks post op and the transformation on how I feel about myself has been worth every single penny. She can see that and has even said if she had known how I felt she would have supported me years ago.

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My mum was not supportive, bearing in mind I first said I wanted it done at 16 years old, wait they will change as you grow older she told me, so i waited and waited and no change. In my early twenties I brought it up again, wait until you have children she said, I couldn't afford a BA on my salary so I invested my money in gel bras and chicken fillets. At 27 I suffered a miscarriage and my cheating boyfriend offered to pay for my BA, I accepted and he backed out of paying on the day the payment was due, so I lost my deposit, I tried the NHS due to depression and my GP wouldn't reffer me and didn't speak of it again. At 29 I had the finances to pay for a BA and looked into getting a loan or some form of credit, but due to being stupid in my early 20's my credit rating was shocking so after finding out my boyfriend cheated again he paid on his credit card and made me sign a legal document that I would make monthly payments to his credit card. My mother was angry and upset and couldn't understand my reasons, she told me horror stories etc, but said she would support me. My friend that are I care about (like family) were supportive and only one was against it (my best friend). It was hard having the 2 people I most cared about thinking I was a crazy Jordan wannabe, but after I'd had it done they were really supportive and couldn't wait to see how they looked. They were relieved when I cam out looking really natural.

When the PIP scandal came out my mother asked me if I had them, to which I replied no, I had researched prior to the op and knew they were a bad implant to have. I think my mum asked me twice bless her and she was very happy I didn't have them. Then strangely enough, just when I thought she was glad for me that I'd had them and they'd made me happier a few months ago she asked if when I had them done again after about 10 years, am I going to go smaller as she thinks they might be too big?? I dont know where that came from and I just said I would see what happens when I get there. I dont know if it upset me or not, but I feel very concious of my boobs around my parents now and cover them up as much as possible. I guess thats just the way it has to be from now on.

I think mine is fairly classic too... My husband couldn't understand why I wanted to do it and said he likes me just the way I am, however if I was going to find the money for it, he would support me. When I did find the money, I think he was a bit shocked that I was doing it, but even more shocked that I'd found the cash!! (I'm pretty sure he thinks there's better things I could spend it on.

I mentioned it to my mum when I was first thinking about it, thinking she'd be understanding as she's got tiny boobs too and I know she's always hated it... I don't think she was listening properly as she gave me a disapproving cough and said "well if you want to spend that sort of money..." I was quite surprised by that and didn't mention it again until my consultation when I needed her to babysit my son... Then she was suddenly a lot more interested asking me questions about the size and what I knew about the surgeon. Then a couple if weeks later when I had the date confirmed, she said she was really pleased for me and it had been something that had affected ger confidence so much, she could understand why I was doing it and was even a little jealous!

Most of my friends have been supportive knowing how much I've hated my chest over the years.. The friend ive known the longest however told me it was up to me but she thought I was crazy and I should spend the money on something else. What is everyone's obsession with the damn money?! When people ask me how much it's costing, I actually lie and say about £1500 less as its making me feel bad!

I was so scared about telling my mum... so I booked a consultation and just ended up telling her we were going shopping. Got her in the car and pulled up at the clinic. My mum was confused as it wasn't an obvious surgery clinic from the outside, was only when we got in the waiting room she was like what on earth is going on

She's one of these people who worry about everything, so thought the nurse could explain everything to her there and then! Maybe not the best way of telling someone... but we look back and laugh at it now!!

the only people that knew before i had it done was my partner who told me he loved me the way i was but understood and would be there, my mum and dad who were fine, my mum was actually very excited because she knew what this ment to me, my mother in law (to be) who paid my £100 deposit she didnt really say anything about it good or bad and my farther in law (to be) who paid for my boobs, his first reaction was theres better things i could spend the money on, but when andy (my fiance) sat down and explained it wasnt a vanity issue he was fine! My mum was out with my family (at a wedding) on the day of my BA and annonced there that i couldnt attend as i was in hospital having new boobies! my one aunt was really jelous (she would love one ) and my other aunt said i inspired her! (shes currently getting her teeth done, shes always haterd them but never done anything and seeing me change something i hated pushed her) everyone was supportive and lovely. only had one girl (over facebook) say i was selfish having it done cuz i had a baby to think about and i couldnt lift a pillow let alone a baby ! shows what she knew lol! as recovery was brilliant and she was just a jelous idiot lol x

Really interesting reading everyones stories - Keep 'em coming girls!

To add to my story - After I had my 1st BA, I was almost hitting my 3 year post-op birthday when I discovered I had a rupture, only my husband and children were aware of this and I didn't tell my parents this time due to their reaction over my first BA and I just couldn't have coped with the "I told you so's" as I was already worn out trying to arrange revision surgery. My hubby was fantastic but I could see the strain of worry in his eyes and although I 'could' talk to him, I chose not to as I sort of wanted to protect him from the stress of what I was going through, it was one of the lonliest times of my life. Thats when I found BJSF and I found women who understood, who could actually empathise and share their own stories with me! I poured my heart out here and I'll never forget how helpful the women were. BJSF was so important to me and helped get me through. I just don't know what I'd have done without this place. xx

Pre op my mum was totally against my having a BA, said I didnt need it etc. My dad didnt really understand but was much more supportive. Post op my mum said she recognised the change in me almost immediatley, I was walking taller and generally had a much sunnier disposition. It really did turn my life around, and she agrees it was the best thing I ever did. My dad is still just as perplexed haha!

My mum fully supported me, she knew I'd wanted it since I was about 15 and I never budged on the idea. My dad sort of eye rolled and said "you're not going to have really massive knockers are you?" but he's so supportive, he's taking me for my 2nd BA as he did for my 1st :) My then boyfriend was supportive too.. his mother's boyfriend dug a story out from a newspaper about a BA going wrong though and waved it in my face when I went up there. I was like "oh thanks for that". My friends all want theirs done now aswell!x

My mum said she hoped I'd forget about it/change my mind, despite knowing I've wanted it for the last five years.

When I told her it was booked she was okay, until the days leading up to it when she realised I was going ahead with it. Then she refused to talk about it but said she'd look after me in the days afterwards. I called her for the hospital after the op and she's been much better since... I think a big part of it was her worrying that something would go wrong.

My partner has been supportive - didn't think I needed it (as you'd expect most partners to say) but cannot wait to get back from deployment to 'meet my new additions'!

Most of my friends that I've told have been really supportive but there are a couple who just don't get it... one was quite vocal so I told them that if they couldn't be say anything nice/supportive then not to bother saying anything at all. I've not heard from them since.

LittleMissBiker wrote: Most of my friends that I've told have been really supportive but there are a couple who just don't get it... one was quite vocal so I told them that if they couldn't be say anything nice/supportive then not to bother saying anything at all. I've not heard from them since.

It's amazing isn't it how weird people can get about what you are doing with your own body! Anyone would think we're making them do it! I think sometimes prople can't help putting their own insecurities and fears (or maybe even jealousy?) on to you.

That's why I get a lot out of coming on here and chatting to people who understand & support everyone