What should I do???

Hi girls,

As some of you will know I've had a few complications with my BA seroma and muscular contracture. I've been seeing my ps every 3 weeks until all was well.

When I saw my ps 3 weeks ago he was very happy with the progress my boobs or rather my right boob was now making he took all measurements again etc and told me although I felt like the difference between my boobs and nipples was huge ( my right boob is higher up but the nipple lower down) it was actually only half a cm which was really good as at 3 po due to muscular contracture it was 6cm difference. He was very confident that by the next time he saw me they would be completely symmetrical as they were before BA.

I left that appointment feeling more positive and the happiest I'd felt about my new boobs since my BA. In the next 3 weeks I didn't really focus on boobs like I had been as I had every faith in them evening out as my ps said.

Yesterday was my appointment with my ps so yesterday morning I took photos of my boobs and printed them off as every time I go I take photos with me from pre BA to date so my pa can monitor prigress. I said to hubby before he left for work that I was sure the difference was worse again. He told me it was just me worrying over nothing.

I got to the clinic for 12pm my appointment was 12.10pm. I was kept waiting until 1.15pm before I was seen so was not happy. My ps agreed that my boobs were worse than 3 weeks ago but didn't have a clue why. Alls he could say was I dont know why this happening to you I've never seen another case like it. It's your muscles it's muscular contracture it was so severe at the beginning but it was getting better so I can't understand why it's going worse again.

He said I need to be patient it will eventually get as no muscle damage is permanent. Although at 3 weeks po he assured me that it would be sorted for my honeymoon which is now 13 days away! I asked him what he was going to do if it was still like this at 12 months PO and he said it wouldn't be. I asked how he knew and he said he didn't. He said right now im not a surgical case as he thinks opening me back up will irritate the muscle and make it worse. His answer was at least it's not as bad as it was at 3 weeks.

He wants me to stop wearing a bra in the day and to continue wearing a sports bra in bed as I'm less aware of what I'm doing with my arms then. He said I should really restrict what I'm doing with arm and try not to use it. I see him again on the 28th jan it should of been the 7th but in still on my honeymoon then.

I left mt appointment feeling crap. To make it worse my dad had picked me up and I had a full rant of I told you you shouldn't of had it done your an idiot. Then when I tried talking to my hubby I got told ive run out of sympathy alls you done us moan about them they were suppose to make you happy. I know he means well because he says I'm perfect and never sees the bad things.

I'm really starting to lose faith in my ps I feel I'm getting fobbed off because he doesn't know what to do.

Anyway sorry for my long rant just had to get it all off my chest. Thanks for listening.

OMG You poor thing,im so sorry I cant imagine how you are feeling im almost lost for words.

I think you need to get a second opinion on this one straight away.Bit I dont know how you would go about this.Im sure you will get loads of replys today.Im so sorry I cant offer any answers.But were all here and as for your dad and hubby they obviously dont understand how deep this cuts!

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YOu poor poor sweetheart.... Men can be very hurtful eh? BUt I agree with Peggysue.. don't think they quite understand how you've been feeling about all this. Definately get a couple of other opinions on this, there are plenty of surgeons us girls can r ecommend for you, who will give you an honest answer. BUt hopefully this will settle on its own, I feel for you hun. What a rubbish situation. But however your boobs are on honeymoon, I'm sure ur man totally adores you, and you will still have a lovely romantic holiday. Best of luck sweet, keep us informed x X X X X

God.... maybe for Christmas you can give them a gift card to redeem a little more sympathy! That's pretty harsh. They might not think you needed to or should have had it done, but it is done, and you would think they could at least sympathise with the fact it's gone wrong!

Sorry to hear hun, hope things do get better for you xx

Hun I really feel for you. These are the ppl that are supposed to ease our minds and know what's going on, they are the experts after all. I think you should perhaps try and get a second opinion.

Hopefully it gets better really soon. Good luck

Thanks girls your support means so much I've just git all emotional reading your replies. I don't know whats wrong with me.

I would definitely like another opinion as I feel that just because my ps has never seen anything like it it died br mean another ps hasn't. I just don't know how to go about it.

Your new avatar looks fab Amy xx

Hey Hun xx

I know just how you feel xx the issues and problems I had nearly cost me my relationship xx Just the other day my OH says he is leaving if I'm not happy this time round so I daren't say anything xx

However we are all here for you sweety xx

If I was you I would ask to see someone else and see what they say xx Perhaps they will be able to put your mind at rest that things will settle or say that there is a problem either way at least you will have an answer xx

In the end I tried to limit the amount of time that I moaned about my boobies to the OH and only spoke about them when my OH raised it xx hard as it is for us, it is hard for them too and they have no idea to be fair xx they are insensitive at the best of times xx I moaned on here A LOT haha xx Thing is it does start to take over YOUR life and that can be hard xx In the end I was boring myself with Boob talk to be fair xx

Hope this helps

Sending you a hug
I agree with Kay, just come here hun and get it all off your chest as much as you like! Men can be pretty useless at understanding all our emotions and knowing what they are suposed to say!!
I would also get a 2nd opinion hun, if your surgeon hasnt seen a case like yours before, it may be helpful to see someone who has. They may well say the same thing, that given time it will be OK, but maybe hearing it from someone else as well, may help put your mind at ease a little. Or they even have some diferent advice that would be worth trying, good luck hun xxxxxxxxx

Lauren did you get my PM? I don't think it worked....let me know! xxx

how awful hun, i would def try and get a second opinion. either another surgeon at transform or another company completely.

it is so hard when you are not happy and the ones you love aren't giving you the support you need, they really don't understand. i don't think they mean to be so unhepful and cutting. Please try and put it to the back of your mind (easier said then done!) for your honeymoon, you want to look back and remember it with happy thoughts and having had the time of your life - not spent worrying about something you have no control over ... then when you get back you can get some control and get your PS or another PS to help!

take care lovely

xxx

Thank you all so much Kay yeah that's really helped me thank you. You are an inspiration to know what you've been threw and you've fought them and won us really comforting.

Katyp yes thanks got your pm I've pm'd you back.

Don't know what I would do without all you girls on here

hi hun,

I agree with everything the girlies have said so far, and sending you big hugs!

Also I noticed that you went through Transform - can you not ask your pcc if you could see another surgeon for a second opinion as you are not satisfied with the latest response? Tell her you need some reassurance in order to feel your best on your big day.

And remember, men are useless with emotions and sensitivity but we are all here for you, take care x x x

Thanks Aurora it means alot to have the support of all you girls on here x

awww hun! hope all gets sorted soon for you.xxx