needs a hug.....

i'm feeling so overwhelmed at the moment by everything :'(

Im booked in for the 29th december with mr.meleagros and im STILL trying to decide between 460cc or 525cc high profile overs, sounds silly but its stressing me out to the max now im worrying about everything, im even starting to think that im being stupid for having this ba, although i know i 100% want it. and then on top of this i have so much uni work to be in by next week and trying to do my dissertation is not helping my mood. and to top everything off my brother was rushed into hospital the other day due to his heart, we all knew this was going to happen...just not this soon.

i'm just sitting here crying :'( i feel so stupid. i feel like i cant cope at the moment.

sorry for the not so happy post ladies just needed to rant as my partner is at work at the moment and i know how comforting you ladies can be :) .

xxxxxx

OH MELANIE firstly, that is a lot to be coping with all in one go.... so sorry to hear about ur brother, you need to try and think about each problem seperately rather than all of them within the same minute, which will cause you to panic rather than sort things in your mind. Can you visit your brother in hospital?
If you're just waiting to hear news about him, if i were you, i would throw myself into my dissertion, get that under control, it will help you to feel better to get on top of that and think more clearly and calmly about everything else.
Whatever happens on your choice of size, you will look great, or your surgeon wouldn't have suggested the 2 sizes.... why not speak to ur pcc and ask her what she would do in your situation? Or leave it up to the surgeon on the day to use his expertise on what will suit your frame best? There's only 65cc difference, either way you will look cracking hun, i'm very sure of that. Maybe have a chat with peggysue? She's having the exact same dilemma.
I think everyone gets that feeling just before surgery where they think 'do i really need to do this?' 'are my boobs THAT bad?' 'this is such a lot of money....' 'will it go well....' etc etc. Just try to remember what brought you to this decision. I am so pleased i had my surgery and my life has changed so much, just how i feel about me, and my confidence etc :thumbs:

But lastly..... you are NOT stupid, everyone gets overwhelmed by things and you have a lot on your plate, ur a person with feelings, and thats ok chick. Wipe your eyes, have a warm bath, make yourself a cuppa.... calm yourself and get that uni work sorted, as much as possible. Give yourself a couple of hours and stop for a break.... you'll start feeling more in control and will deal better with everything else.


Not that i'm a counsellor lol..... !!!! Best of luck sweet, this is a bad time, but there are good times around the corner, just remember that.

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First of all, big, big hug!

As Amy says, don't feel stupid, you have so much going on. Plus you have come to us to help you cope so you are coping, because if you weren't coping then you wouldn't have made it to us! (not sure that makes sense but hopefully you know what I mean!)

I agree with what Amy says, if you can't visit your brother then throw yourself into the dissertation and get that out of the way. If you can visit your brother then make the arrangements and work on your dissertation around it.

With regard to the sizes, I was stressing about the same thing especially after someone on here told me that if I am borderline uplift that I won't be happy despite my Surgeon thinking it is not necessary for what I am looking for. As you know we have the same surgeon and we have been offered the same sizes and we are roughly the same stats.

I went and saw my pcc again last week to try the implants again. I took one of my old plunge bras (wonderbra style) to try the implants in instead of those stretchy ones they give you initially. I also took a vest top with me and one of my work shirts to get an idea of the final size.

I liked both of them, I think both sizes would work on my frame. I trust Mr M's recommendation on those sizes and the fact he doesn't think I need an uplift.

I have settled on the 460 purely because I think I will still be able to get away with my current work shirts so I can use my money on new underwear and not new work clothes.

I think I am driving my boyfriend mad asking him repeatedly "am I going to look stupid?" "is this a bad idea?" "what if....?". Poor sould he has another 5weeks and 6 days of it too!

Only you can decide what you want to go with but hopefully knowing you are not the only one going through this helps you.

More hugs x x x

Hi melanie.. i totally agree with Amyd.. you need to separate the issues and work out which you can do something about today..probably your uni work..once you have one thing sorted you will start to feel like you are more in control.

Hope you feel better xx

Awwww hun, you are Not stupid, you are Normal!!!!!!!
Im sorry to hear that your brother is poorly, could you take a couple of hours out, and go and see him? Maybe this would help?
And you wouldn't be human if you didn't have last minute worries about entering into surgery, it is a big deal and one that shouldn't be taken lightly. Its good that you are worrying about it (in a funny kinda way) it shows that you are taking it seriously and that can only be a good thing!
Have you done the rice boob thing? Maybe spend a day with one boob at 460 and one boob at 525, or maybe that would be a bit daft, lol. Maybe a day with one size and the next day with the other size, feel which one you are more comfortable with?
Failing that, you can always leave it up to your surgeons judgement on the day, they are the experts!!
As for college work, I feel your pain! I am only doing a college course not even a degree and need to pull my finger out big time over the next few weeks. There is only one way to deal with this, and thats just get stuck in!!!
Amy is def the voice of reason! Take one thing on at a time, thinking about it all will get you no where, tackle one thing at a time hun, xxxxxxxxxxxx

Sorry your so down melaine,heres a big ,i agree with what the other girls said ,try not to worry about everything at once, i hope your brother gets well soon,i know its a big worry when family are poorly! Try keep your chin up,things will sort themselves out soon!!!xxxx

And everything the others said xx

Hi

aww you poor thing with so much happening at once as lady said look at each thing one at a time that way you can make a clear decision on what size to go for or maybe leave it to Mr M to decide on what will suit you best on the day.

We have just over 2 weeks to go and i can't wait i hope you get things sorted sending big hugs xxx

Thank you so much for the advice girlies!! I am feeling much better now!, AMYD i took your advice on board and I started focusing on one thing at at a time and that's the reason i haven't been on here recently. I went and saw my brother he is now at home with my parents at the moment (he lives away at uni) but they wanted him home to look after him (and to keep an eye on him as he doesn't like to tell us when his heart is playing up, he doesn't want to make a fuss bless him). I have managed to tackle a lot of my assignments...... so decided to treat myself by coming onto this site lol.

so happy melanie is back lol. 8 days to go for me now!! i cant believe it! i've been booked up since september!!!!

sending big hugs to everyone xxxxxx

or should i say 7 days .......

So sorry you're going through all this hun hope everything turns out okay. Good luck for your BA, bet you're so excited! Have a lovely Christmas. xxxx

thank you hunny :) i feel like a big kid im so excited! i think im driving my partner mad all i can talk about is boobs lol. hope your well babe and loving the boobs!! you avi looks great. xxx

I know exactly how you are feeling with Uni , i have an assignment and portfolio to finish for my 3rd placement year, im going ot have to tie that all in with recovery and working and being back in england after 6 months on a placement in vietnam! so guna be feeling stressed out too!

chin up!!!!! everything will get better :) xxxxxxxxxxxxx

MelanieP1991 wrote:thank you hunny :) i feel like a big kid im so excited! i think im driving my partner mad all i can talk about is boobs lol. hope your well babe and loving the boobs!! you avi looks great. xxx

haha i got banned from saying boobs on Tuesday

GOOd luck melanie! GLad ur feeling better sweet. X X X

All the best Melanie, take each day as it comes xxx

thank you girlies :) feeling so much better now. Jennieokee not long now babe!!. stressful isnt it I have my exams a week and half post op :O!! and one week post op i'm going to be conducting my experiment for my dissertation!! lets hope recovery goes well for me ay lol so its going to be stressful for both of us haha. good luck for you ba babe cant wait to read your story :) (and good luck for the uni work!! xxx

Good luck hun! Ooh how exciting, one week to go! What an exciting Xmas and New Year you are going to have!!!! xxx

Glad ur feeling better now hun but everything ur feeling is normal . You've got so much going on too it can all get a bit too muchx I drove my partner crazy in the run up to my BA (and afterwards too if i'm honest!!) xxx big hugs to u babe xxx

hey not long now :) i'm only in 2nd year but uni work sucks seems to be a constant flow of ridiculous amounts of assignments :( all be worth it thou and mr m knows his stuff just leave it in his hands i'm so glad i went 525 cause i'm now looking into going bigger lol xx