I showed someone :)

I showed my bestest friend in the world and my mum my boobs this week which is a huge deal for me as never really showed anyone. My poor boyfriend or 10/11 months hasnt even seen them. Mum now understands 110% why I want them done which makes me so happy as she didnt think I needed them done until she saw them and by the reaction on her face she was shocked by how they looked.

Although I adore Adam (my boyfriend) and do want to show im scared if I show him he wont look at me in the same way due to my last boyfriends reaction. I know hes not like that but its still at the back of my mind. I really want to show him but not sure how to bring it up. I always wear a bra or top when we have sex and definately wouldnt feel comfortable my hideous boobs jiggleing around. Any other ideas how I could show him with out being so out there?

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A good way to show him would be to take a photo of them in good light, and try to capture them at their best, n show him that. this is what i did to show people cos i didnt wanto show everyone my boobs!

Hmmm that a tough one hunnie. I'm not sure how to go about showing him. Maybe you could sit him down and say that he probably knows you want your boobs done and would love to show him exactly why you want them done as he's never seen them but that you are scared of his reaction to them, and explain about your ex's reaction. I'm sure he will be really understanding about it and give you lots of love and encouragement about showing him and about getting them done.

I have never been ashamed of what I've got, don't mind people seeing them and have even sunbathed topless when on holiday, but my problem is that I just don't like them myself. I don't care what other people think, they can stuff it if they don't like them. lol

But I do want to show my mum before they are done. My mum, and loads of friends, say to me "you've got great boobs, you don't need them done" to which I reply "you haven't seen them naked!" Wearing a good bra does a lot for your boobs and people don't realise the extent of the problem/your reasons for getting it done.

But very very huge well done to you hun for finding the courage to show your mum and best friend xx

May I ask, why is it you want them done? Just say no if I'm being too personal! But I mean is it just size, shape, asymmetry etc? Sometimes it's worse to the owner than it is to everyone else. I know it's easier said than done to just 'get over it,' but you might find that just for a moment you can remember that while you see your boobs every day and they're attached to you all the time, your boyfriend will only see them every now and again, and if you were to show him, it'd only be for a minute. I get what you mean about not wanting to show people things - I'm like that about loads of me. But one thing that helps me get past that is to remember that 1) I put more pressure on myself to look perfect than everyone else does, and 2) I see it more than everyone else does anyway.

Like Jen said, you could always take a picture. It also depersonalises it a little - it's a bit less like showing him your boobs if you're just showing him a picture, if you get what I mean? Alternatively, perhaps you wouldn't even have to show him at all. Does he even know you want them done? I'm guessing he does? You don't really have to show him if you don't want to; there's a chance you could show him and feel relieved that he doesn't react like your ex did, or alternatively you can explain to him that you're just not comfortable with it and objectively speaking even your mum reacted with surprise, and so you just don't want to show him and you hope he won't see that as pettiness or silly. He should respect that if you go with that.

If you do want to show him, you could tell him beforehand; ask if he really wants to know why he's never seen you topless, and ask him not to react too strongly because it'd upset you. Whether you tell him that's happened before is up to you. But if you put it that way, then at least you know that if he's a good guy he'll try his best not to upset you, and if he really can't help but react strongly then he should at least apologise and do his best to be supportive of you afterwards. But as I said, I don't know what your situation is, what your boobs are like now, how you see yourself etc.

Good luck whatever you choose to do though =] x

Run a nice hot bath with loads of bubbles and candles, you can sit an talk or he can get in with you????

Hun you have to do what you feel is best, I'm sure he'll understand but if he loves you then he loves all of you. Generally what we see in the mirror isn't how others see us.

I hope you get the confidence to just show them off!!

Good luck hun

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Dont worry chuck, I have totally been there.
How about taking a photo pf them on your phone and showing him that way. Thats what i did. I just made sure they looked their best at the time xx

wow i cant believe this.. we both have had the same situation!
well it was my mum and my sister i showed, they too had no idea how bad it was until they actually saw me.

Also i had a boyfriend for 10months and like you, never showed him my boobs... he never saw me with a bra or bikini on. Just a top whenever we went 'there' lol

i felt the same thinking he'd never look at me the same and thats why i could never show him fully.. all i done was take some pictures with a stuffed bra to make them look like DD's ! but it was wrong to do that cos he kept asking what was wrong with them. I never even told him i had asymmetry.. anywhos im not with him anymore and he still never saw my real boobies.

all im trying to say is, do what you think is right for YOU! if he doesnt mind you not showing him then thats great but if you WANT to then he's there to support you at that time.

Another suggestion, you could take pictures of what they look like now and then after your Op you can show him what they used to look like? then you would feel more confident in how they've changed and you can show him the new you..? Up to you hunni :)

GOOD LUCK!!!
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Hello Hun,I don't know the condition of your breasts but if it's something like tubular breast or uneven size maybe you can find a website that shows before and after pictures of other cases.This way you can explain to him how it has effected you emotionally and why you are wanting to have surgery to correct the condition.And you wouldn't be putting yourself "out there" until he understands the issues.Then maybe if he asks to see yours,you'll feel more at ease to show him.

Hey Jadee,



Couldn't not respond to this thread as I'm in exactly the same position as you! I showed my Mum my body in floods of tears one night and she wholeheartedly agreed with me that surgery was the way forward as she was so upset at seeing me so depressed.



Ive been with my current BF for nearly 12 months and he's not seen my boobs properly either. He hasn't seen me fully naked either as I've got quite a bit of loose tummy skin from losing weight after gastric band surgery, but I'm getting a TT, BA and uplift on 11th August. We're both looking forward to sharing a bath after I've healed from my surgery. (Provided I'm happy with my new body, of course!)



There's nothing more that I can add to the fab advice you've already been given, other than to wish you the very best and hope that your confidence starts to improve once you've had your surgery.



Wishing your lots of luck,

Miss Flump x x x

The only one word I can use to describe my boobs are hideous haha. They are aggy with one bigger than the other and quite alot of nipple. He isnt that fussed about seeing them anymore as he knows how much I hate them but sometimes I wish he would nag me into showing him as I think id be more likely to show him that way.



I think he thinks if he asks me I will just cry as I get upset talking about them but I think thats what I could do with so he could show me it doesnt matter. Sorry if this sounds really cheesey



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