second thoughts or regrets

by candycain 4th March 2011, 11:22 pm

Anyone start having second thoughs close to surgery date???? Maybe it"s just nevers but I have nagging feeling. Is this normal? I was over the top excited and scared but now I feel really depressed. It's like reality is kicking in watching all the march girls going in and I am next week.

Candy

by sammi35 5th March 2011, 12:10 am

im havin second thoughts everyday im scared to death , so i guess its normal

and my luck at the moment has been so bad n i mean really bad so i keep thinking to myself is somthin tryin to tell me something .

i think once the days comes n its all over with we can finally relax n think to ourselves why was we so worried in the first place .

im sure u will be fine on the day and smiling last all the rest of the march girls so far have been xx

by misf1 5th March 2011, 12:19 am

Pre op about 1-2 weeks before my op I had convinced myself that I was going to have a complication. I even checked with work if it would be ok to take sick for a complication or re op as I didn't have any more leave left. I had doubts as to whether I was doing the right thing and even seemed to be convinceing myself that my boobs weren;t that bad and that I could live with them the way they were?????? bearing in mind I had wanted a BA since age 15-16 (I was 29) and I had hated them for a long long time. I would say it's just nerves, cause when I woke up after my op I was so happy I'd done it and so proud of myself for having the guts to do it.

by sarahdawn31 5th March 2011, 12:43 am

Totally normal,
I actually almost wrote a goodbye letter to my kids in case something went wrong... but I kept crying everytime I tried writing so I didnt and just hoped for the best.
Just stay strong and know its normal to feel that way most of us do. You will be fine and once you wake up with boobies you will see how easy and wonderful it all is.

xx

by candycain 5th March 2011, 12:47 am

Thanks Girls. I don"t know why I feel so depressed. I was on top of the world yesterday.

by sarahdawn31 5th March 2011, 7:15 am

Just all part of the pre op process hun, try not to worry too much... its all very worth it! x

by carol_s 5th March 2011, 8:02 am

It's all part of the roller coaster ride to the day sweetheart - today all those doubts will have probably evaporated and you'll be back to being really excited again. Just think of all those years of anguish, not being able to wear clothes you'd like to wear, being embarrassed to be naked in front of your OH/BF, being envious of your friends' boobies, being afraid to wear a bikini etc - and now, in just 3 short days time, you will be able to do all of these things (with a huge grin on your face too I might add).
You'll be fine hun Hug

xx

by Malibu 5th March 2011, 12:51 pm

I completely relate to that.
I'll be watching TV, totally absorbed, not thinking about boobs whatsoever and then....ahhh oh my god what am I doing? It's so much money! I'm paying someone to cut me open and shove a foreign object inside me.
I find having a rummage through old crap bras and thinking about how satisfying it will be to throw them all away and buy new ones tends to help.

by carolyn77 5th March 2011, 1:45 pm

phew, glad I'm not the only one feeling like this! and what's more, i still have 10 "sleeps" to go.

I'm just trying to keep busy and put the op to the back of my mind for as long as possible. xx

by Jenbabes 5th March 2011, 2:03 pm

Carolyn I am feeling exactly like you my BA is in April, at one point I am constantly thinking wearing the chicken fillet isn't that bad, and I am not that small (34AA), what you doing? you are being selfish, look at all the starving people in the world and you want to blow money on a BA, so then I focus on the reason why it's me time I work hard I deserve to be completely happy, so focus on the end goal if you have any negative thoughts think of summer aaaaaaahhhhh wearing the bikini of you choice Hug

by kittie 5th March 2011, 2:11 pm

The whole journey is an emotional rollercoaster. I didn't really have nerves pre op until I was about to go into theatre but was ready to jump off the table at that point. It's all part of the journey and we all have such a range of emotions. Try to keep in mind why you're doing this and keep busy until the time comes.

I can honestly say, I have no regrets about having my BA, it's the best thing I ever did, even with all the ups and downs.

by flowergirl 6th March 2011, 12:04 am

OMG, I can totally relate to this. I keep thinking, why on earth am I spending nearly 4 grand on this.... I have taken out a credit card to pay for half of it, I could have taken my kids to Disneyworld or something for that!
I keep trying to remember how depressed I am about my current boobies... I really, really hope it's going to be worth it and I don't suffer any complications or major boob greed after. I'll be gutted.

by elleblondie 6th March 2011, 2:28 am

Candycain!

Seeing as you and I have gone through every emotion together, I will assure you, it's totally how I felt. I was in my dressing room right before going into surgery & texting my husband "is this a mistake"! He reassured me, as yours will, and you will be fine.
I'm only one day post op but I'm definitely happy to be done with the rollercoaster of emotions! I know I was feeling soooo unsure for probably 7 days before. I wanted to back out so badly, to be honest, if I didn't have that looming financial obligation of half of my surgery that would be due even if I cancelled, I may have cancelled. But here I am - staring at them and touching them constantly! You will be so happy!
My husband said to me today - you have big boobs!! I said, yes i do! Normally I would say "no, I have great bras. But I do, I have big beautiful breasts! LOL.

xoxo

by candycain 6th March 2011, 5:07 am

Elleblondie
Great to hear from you! I am sooo trying to be positive but I am scared. Like you if I wasn't loosing money I would be tempted to back out. Soooo scared!

by elleblondie 6th March 2011, 12:23 pm

Awwww...
I hate hearing how scared you are. I felt like that right up until they put me out. It's hard. And you feel kinda lonely - wish I could just bring all the forum girls with me!
But this is nothing you can't handle, especially if you have had kids! They are going to look so fanastic Candy, you will be soooo happy you did it. Did you get your husband to take a before picture? Because even having my one before and one after I feel satisfied.
You can do it!

by gymchick 6th March 2011, 3:44 pm

Hiya, i can honestly say that even though it took me 15 years!!!! to save for my BA and i had been reserching boob jobs for a long time i still wondered a few times if i was doing the right thing i think this is all part of the emotional ups and downs of having surgery that isnt lifesaving.
Now im nearly 7 weeks post op and i have no regrets well only one really that it took me so long to get here i would recomend it to anyone whos not happy with there boobs its been the best thing i ever done and i cant wait untill they are properly healed and i can really show them off this is the first year for as long as i can remember that im looking forward to summer and skimpy tops i might be 40 but im going to make up for all those lost years wearing baggy, shapless cover everything clothes.
Good luck with your BA and enjoy the whole experence
x

by candycain 6th March 2011, 7:41 pm

Thanks girls!!!
I am like you GYMCHiCK. I am 40 and I plan on making up for lost time. Plus I figure I am not getting any younger so I am fighting this age things best I can. LOL

2 more sleeps!!!! Soooooo scared!

by HighMaintainance 7th March 2011, 5:05 am

I have to say I never felt like backing out. Almost a decade of realising a BA would be the only way to get my tits further forward I could kiss my old tits goodbye. I felt no panic, no second thoughts. I'd lived my life with a crap rack for as long as i was prepared to go. It was all about the future with me. But I don't have any kids or close family and I never thought I was going to die on the operating table. I'm not a very dramatic person. More of the easily jaded kind. I just wanted to make progress. Don't worry you'll be fine. You're gonna get the tits you deserved from the beginning and it's not open-heart surgery. Good luck xxx

by candycain 7th March 2011, 12:48 pm

I am trying real hard to be brave. If I did not have my children I would not be as worried.

by sarahdawn31 8th March 2011, 4:43 am

candycain wrote:I am trying real hard to be brave. If I did not have my children I would not be as worried.

I do think it makes us worry more, knowing if there was a problem it is not just us but our kiddies who are affected. But truly, the chance is so minimal of there being a complication. Everyday that passes something could happen to us, but we dont focus on that we focus on the good, exciting and fulfilling things in our lives, and this is one of those great things, in just a short time you will have boobs and all the great things that go along with it, like self confidence.
Stay focused, you will be fine and it will all be great! x

by iampetite 8th March 2011, 4:52 am

I'm feeling the exact same way right now (2 weeks away). I'm so scared. But hearing all these comments from you girls really helped.

Good luck on your op tmrw!! You'll be fine!

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