When did you tell your OH?

Hello Ladies,
I have a consultation next week, but I still haven't told my boyfriend yet. And they told me they had appointments available for the surgery in April! There are a combination of reasons I am hesitant: I am feel guilty about the expense (even though it would be my money) I still feel he would think it is an extravagant purchase (anyone know the look when you come home with three House of Fraser Bags? haha). I would rather wait till I am definite and so I don't have to mention it at all if I change my mind. Also we are a very active couple and I am worried that it will put me out for a long time.

Kinda wish I had it done before I met him, then it would be just 'hello miss and hello to your lovely boobies' haha. No but seriously, then it would feel like less of a selfish decision.

Any thoughts?

i have wanted it done for years, and told my boyfriend i hated my boobs and wanted them done before we even slept together, so that it wouldnt be too much of a shock when he saw them for the first time, because my pre-op ones were so awful.

Hi Kitten!
I'm pre-op too, and was so nervous about telling my OH that I was considering breast enlargement. I was dreading either him being completely against it, or a bit TOO enthusiastic..so the poor thing couldn't do anything right in my eyes :( Anyway, we were sitting watching tele one evening, and I just said it, ''I've been thinking about getting my boobs done''- and waited for his reaction. He was fantastic, and after listening to my views on it and about surgery details etc, he's come around to the idea. Not sure that he's entirely happy about the recovery..and how it may effect our..erm..private time; but when he sees how much more confident I will feel I'm sure the couple of weeks abstinence will be a mere memory :)
Good luck, let us know how it goes!
Where are you having yours done??
Katy xx

Hey Kitten,

My OH knew from day dot that I wanted my boobs doing at some point. And in the 3years we have been together it got mentioned quite often, however nothing more than small talk.

And so at the beginning of Feb (after booking my 1st consultation) I casually dropped him a text along the lines of 'Booked to see a surgeon about the 'fried eggs' it was only then that it hit him that I DID want a BA. The cost was mentioned, but I just simply said 4k in the grand scheme of life is nothing. He recently purchased a new Audi which set us back quite a bit, whereas I drive an 8yr old 206.

The OH has been great since then!! It was a shock at first, but when he knew I wasnt being talked out of the decission he accepted it!He asked lots of questions in the consultations. My Op is booked for 9th April, he suggested that on monday we go shopping, he got me a new dressing gown, slippers, sports bras, pj's, zip up tops etc. I never expected his reaction to be anything like this..but im not complaining!!

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My husband always knew I hated my boobs but thought I wasn't serious about wanting a BA. Then we had some money and he asked me did I really want it, I immediately said yes and booked a consultation. You have to do it for you, nobody else. My husband didn't understand why I thought I need it done and said he liked my boobs as they were, but would go along with me, even though he hated the idea of me having surgery. Now he says it's the best thing I ever did because of the confidence it gave me.

You all have very good approaches, and by the sounds of it lovely OHs too!! The thing is I have never mentioned getting them done before, although I have mentioned I am not happy with my breasts. I never mentioned it because I never thought it was the right thing for me, but the more I read the more I understood how far things have come, and also that there are natural looking options, and not everyone has to get Pamela Anderson boobs.

Charls87, I have to agree in the scheme of life it is not much at all, and also he has been talking about getting a new car for months where as I am happy to save the money and use the old car.

And Hissyfairy, I totally get your 'can't be too enthusiastic' repsonse haha, Hmmm should I just drop it in then? How's you dinner? I wanna get my boobs done? haha. Or wait till after the consultation?

My OH has known I hated my boobs from word go, we have been together 10 years this year. I had often said I would like them done but it wasnt until this time last year that I said I was going to do it, I borrowed the money and I pay it back (we have separate money) so doesn't effect him. I used to go out for lunch alot with my friends at work, and probably wasted the £86 a month it costs me for the loan. Once I decided I was going to do it, wihtin 2 months they were done. He has been very supportive and have to say he LOVES them!!!

Best decision I have ever made.

Hello again kitten :)
Ooo dunno about doing it at dinner- if he's well shocked you might end up with it all over the place hehe! :D I did kinda just say it, but I timed it when there was a holiday advert on, and mentioned how I wished I had the confidence to wear a swimming suit/bikini (I wear a t-shirt and shorts eeew :/ ), and then I said it! Think he thought I didn't mean it at first, but once I'd explained my feelings towards it it was ok.
I too have felt a bit guilty about the cost, as I could re-do my house with it, but if you can afford it why the hell not eh?
All the best xx

You guys are such sweeties, I totally get why the forum is addictive, so many bright supportive women that have thought this through, done their research, and really just want to enjoy life and there bodies. A-hem, sorry a bit of a mushy tangent there. hehe.

I think he would be supportive, its just saying it and planning it. And yes Phoebe I totally agree, I feel like if I save on other things the amount would be totally manageable. And I would hope he would love them too, I would like to think we could both enjoy them. Anyone feel there sex life improved after? I was thinking more confident and sexy (: couldn't hurt it

I started talking about wanting mine done about a year before i actually did it!I drove him nuts going on and on!He really wasn't keen at all,but thats all under thebridge now.He came round to the idea eventually,but mostly he didn't agree because he thought i didn't need it.But i suppose he could see i wasn't happy and he wanted me to be.I must say though that although hehseems to like my new ones he still says even now there was nothing wrong with my original ones,but has accepted them x

Kittenswithoutmittens,

Like quite a few of the other girls on here my husband knew from day one this was something that I had planned. And also like you we are very active so I had to time things out to try not to put too much of a damper on our activities. Unfortunately, I will be missing out the last end of snowboarding but I know it's going to be worth it for how confident I'll feel come summer!
I'm sure you will find your moment and your man will be supportive. One thing I did find with my OH is that he was more quiet on the subject becasue he didn't want to offend me (he didn't want me to think he was overly excited, etc.)but now that it's done - he's been very suppotive vebally too. I've already caught him stealing looks!
Good luck Hun'.
xoxo

Soooooo, I talked to him about it, and well he was totally fine, kinda in a state of shock, it went so well haha. I guess I over thought it. Even when I said it could be £4K, he said do what makes you happy. I guess he is a typical man in that he doesn't really need to talk and talk about things, like us ladies do.

We'll have to see what he says if I get an actual surgery date! I don't know if I have planned it right for recovery or not. I know I have missed snowboarding, but we were planning a hiking trip in late June/ July. I was hoping for an April date (don't know whether whether that is realistic to be honest! but one can hope). Do you think 8-10 weeks recovery is unrealistic? The trip would involve carrying a backpack! hmmm that sounds scary to me even without surgery hahaha

my oh paid for my boobies as a xmas present as i was so depressed with what i had after 3 kids.he wasnt interested what they looked like after eitha he just sed as long as i was ok i wanted it for myself and he knew that i am quite a shy person so i still wear hoodies he was a bit worried that i wud turn into jordan haha but no chance of that i wud need lipo and a tummy tuck after 3 kids haha x

Hey girl,

I was happy to read all went well telling our OH!

I don't know about the back pack situation after 8 or 10 weeks. I think it's going to depend on how you feel. I am only a few days so I have no clue. Hopefully some of the other girls who have had theirs done will let you know what they think.

Your trip sounds awesome tho. Your right, it's going to be hard enough with or without surgery! LoL, how long would you be gone for?

xoxo

My husband always knew once my boob shrunk and deflated after my daughter that I wanted implants. I was 18 when I met him, nice big boobs and small figure, then all of a sudden 5 yrs later I had a baby, not so perfect stomach anymore, a few stretch marks, empty saggy boobs, so to get dressed was quite a change. He fully support me, and said if i wanted to not do it he loved me the way I was and didnt think i needed to change anything, but if I wanted to he would support me 100%. Youd be surprised how wlling your man will be for you to get nice boobs, it benefits them just as much as us :o)
xoxoxox

I'm so glad it went well for you! It is so nerve racking tell them.

From what I've heard I think 8-10 weeks should be fine but I do not have them yet and don't know what it feels like.

The best way is to ask your surgeon. They would know best!

Good luck!

my hubby has known since I first met him that this was something I eventually wanted done as I have always been on the small side but since having my kids and breastfeeding both they have no volume at all and seem to have shrunk (didn't think it was possible to get any smaller than what I was) but it's my 30th this year and I have made the decision that its going to hopefully (if I have the cash by then) be my present to myself. He is still really supportive and has already told me he will take at least two weeks off work (longer if needed) so I can rest as much as possible in the early days and not have to worry about chasing after the kids and doing daily school stuff.

Congrats on telling the OH...I bet it wasnt half as bad as you imagined! :thumbs:

Again im pre op so wouldn't know about the backpacking issue, but sounds fab!! Im a bit of a gym bunny and my PS said nothing for 4 weeks and if I insist on going to the gym then only light work and nothing on the chest for 6-8weeks as it can affect the healing of the muscle.


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Congrats that with the OH! They don't usually react as bad as i we think they would.

I just mentioned my friend's BA (she's quite open about it) and how nice it was he agreed and said it was amazing so I took the opportunity to say I was kind of maybe possibly considering it, he was suprised at first as I've not mentioned before and his first response was...after a long hesitation that as long as I was doing it for myself and not anyone else then it's ok.

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He knew for a long time that I wanted them, so i didn't have to tell him. Once I made the decision that was it really, he was more concerned for my health than anything else but all went well and we're both very happy!!! x

Hey I know how you feel, Well first off my boy friend knew I wanted my BA since I was a teenager and now that Im going to be 24 yrs old I can afford them. He thinks Im perfect how I am but he told me if boobies will make me happy then go for it and get it, but he also told me "WOw $6,200.00 is sooo much money" and yes it is. After he said that I told him how much money has he put into his car (car parts and upgrades) He said about $7,000.00. I explained to him my BA will be the same thing. Yes Ill be spending alot of money at once but the pay off is great, It will be with my my whole life and I told him that he only drives his car ever now and then but my boobs will be with me every second of the day. He finally got it and he is excited for me to get them... lol he said he will help do the massages hahaha

hahaha, I never thought of that, I should throw that in as a bonus. ... I will need help massaging my boobs. do you think you could fit it in?...haha

Thanks I am glad you were all there it gave me some courage to talk to him about it. Still thinking about the time off from excercise, work, and life! We haven't booked our tickets yet, so maybe I can push it later in July if I think it will interfere. But I am jumping the gate a bit as I don't have a date yet, just so excited!

Can't wait for the consultation.