25 days till ba and having doubts!!

Hi ladies, its 25 days till my ba, and for some reason im starting to question myself, asking why am i getting this done, putting myself through this, do i really need it done? (I do need it, I know I do)
I just cant help myself, im really worried that i have decided to have this done on a whim, because i felt low that day and rushed into it. I have wanted this done for at least 10yrs, but its the reality that its going to happen and not a dream anymore. Its also the thought of will my husband treat me differently?.. will my friends?..I just dont know whats got into me! are these feelings normal? or have i just made the biggest mistake of my life..

if anyones felt the same before theirs, or if anyones got advice i would be grateful

just feeling low

thanks xx

Hi hun,

I had all of those feelings. Like you, I had wanted it for a long time. Im not 11 days after the op, so the worst part is over. Let me tell you, it IS worth it and you will be so glad you went through with it. heres a tip...I kept a pic of myself, looking rather flat chested, on my fridge.. this reminded me why i was going through with the op..... now i have a small D cup...and im so much more happy and confident!!! its defo worth it xxx

I remember looking in the mirror 2 weeks before my BA and thinking my boobs didn't look that bad, I think I even convinced myself they had grown (they had not). I questioned why I was getting it done over and over. I had also wanted it done for over 10 years and with the reality of getting it done I was scared, I'd hated my boobs for years and yet there I was telling myself I didn't need the op when I had wanted it for so long. You will have doubts, we all did, but if you know you have wanted it done for a long time, I'm sure it's just pre op nerves. I am very glad I went through with it now, it's one of the best things I have ever done. I can actually wear a bikinin now that I wont have to ring out the water from the padding as I come out of the pool.

And it's a yes from me too! Al of what you are feeling is normal. My hubby was really worried that my boobs would feel fake post op to him - I was worrried about this but needn't have been. He's not even allowed to touh them really yet and all he can say when I am changing my bra is WOW!! He is really, really attentive, it's lovely!

My friends, the ones who atter are and have all been great. Some aquaintances know as I got drunk one night nd told a few people and even now they are OK. I wish I hadn't told them though asI am worried who they might tell. I am already spinning a 'didn't need a ba but had an uplift' story in my head!!

I kept thinking yes then no and vice-versa. It is only now tbh post op that I can look at my pre op pics and think ''how much did I NEED a BA!!'' It truly is one of the best things I have ever done. Would do it all again tomorrow.

I am sure it is the right thing for you, you don't want something for as long as you've wanted it to actually not want it!! It is a major dose of nerves and worries. Just relax and try not to over analyse everything about it and see how you feel. You only live once xx

Hi izzie37

I haven’t introduced myself properly on here yet so my apologies for that but I just wanted to jump in say that you’re not alone on this and thank you for putting put into words all my exact same fears!

I am due to have my BA on 5^th July and have wanted this for over 20 years and yet I am now asking the same questions that you are, as well as am I just being vain and selfish of course!??I’m also worried about whether it will change my personality in a negative way if I’m not happy with the result or if something goes wrong ( god forbid!! ) as I’ve spent so many years hating my fried eggs that I don’t think I could stand it if they were made worse by something that I had done voluntarily!! Also completely understand your worries about whether or not people you care about will relate to you differently and in my case, most importantly, my wonderful hubby as we are both so used to the ‘old’ me that I don’t know how it will be to suddenly have boobs??

Anyhoo, sorry I’ve not been much help ( probably made it worse actually ) but ultimately it does seem that you/we are completely normal to be thinking all this ( as the other lovely ladies have confirmed – ) so we should perhaps try to keep the focus on the reasons why we are on this road in the first place and remember that life isn’t a dress rehearsal so we either get us some fab now or we live the rest of lives regretting and wondering what if.....



All the best and good luck!





FireFly

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Yes I felt the same, Im 36 now and wanted it for 20 years, as soon as I booked it I thought about the vanity and all the other things I could spend the money on (we have a big family) and wondered if I really should go ahead with it. I am now 7 weeks post op, and my only regret is not doing it years ago, and Im sure you will hear this time and time again, as it really is a fantastic thing to do. Nerves make you do all sorts of things and doubt is definatley one of them xx

Awww Izzie, I think quite a lot of us have those fears in the run up to our surgeries

The guilt I felt in the run up to my re-op was awful! I wasn't financially prepared for the op, so has to loan the money from savings we'd put away for our sons education, it was heartbreaking for me taking that money and many times I sat and wondered if I should just have the implants explanted and just live with whatever was left, but with the support of my family I went through it - Best decision I made!

I know without my lovely boobs I wouldn't be the confident, happy person I am now, I've almost repayed back the money I loaned and don't for a single minute now regret having the surgery now, I'd do it all over again too! xx

I will ditto everything that has been said. I haven't regretted mine for a single moment. You can't put a price on the difference it will make to your life and how you feel about yourself xx

Thanks ladies its nice to know that these feelings ARE normal and that im not some kind of loony..

everything that you have all said i have felt exactly the same things, from the guilt of using the money on me, to the vanity, and i almost convinced myself the other day that my boobs had grown too!!! completely nuts!!

Thank god its just pre-op nerves, I do definately want this done otherwise why would i have saved all that money and felt desperately inadequate for all these years!!

Thanks xx

I also agree with the girls, I've still got 11 weeks to go so I haven't had any doubts yet, but that might change when it get's nearer the time!!
If things get tough I will just remind myself of all the hurtful things people have ever said to me about my flat chest.
You'll be fine!
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