Writing a letter to my mum...

Hi lovelies,

Well, I am sitting just now writing an e-mail to my mum to tell her about my BA. I didn't realise just how difficult this would be. I am literally shaking and have a lump in my throat. There are things I just don't know how to word or express, and I am pretty damn scared that she will be angry/ annoyed/ think I'm just being extremely vain...I just needed to write this to know I have the support of you girls xxx

You'll do great hun just remember in your letter its not your mums permission you're looking for, you're telling her because you love her and want to include her in something that is very important to you, this is about 'you' and 'your' life sweetheart, not your mums. You're dealing with the nerves building up to your BA, no matter how your mum reacts she'll deal with it hun.

Mums love their children and their happiness is a mothers ultimate goal

Deeeeeeeep breath gorgeous. Xxx

Thank you Cookie. Your words are always like a healing gel for how I'm feeling!! I can't seem to word it right...everything I am writing just sounds like I'm asking permission or justifying...but it absolutely has to be done and what better time than the present xx

Well, it's sent. No going back now...xxx

hey! :) tried to post a comment but doesn't seem to have posted so excuse me if it posts twice :p

But initially I found it very difficult telling my mum I wanted to have my BA i was so worried about how she would react. but when i finally plucked up the courage she was so supportive! Of course she did the whole mumsy thing, making sure it was exactly what I wanted and had done the research into risks etc but when she knew i was serious she was completely supportive. Since then she has attended all of my appointments and has been brilliant! Couldn't ask for better support!

Good luck telling your mum hun, will be so worth it and no doubt she will support your decision! Will be a huge weight off ur shoulders xxxx

hi hun,

very happy for you that you made the step to finally tell your mum! i hope you found the right words in the end..
do keep us updated if you want to, we are always here!

xx

Thank you girls, that means a lot to me. I am hoping my mum will respond more positively than I currently think she will. I have never, ever mentioned any desire to have surgery to her so I have no idea whatsoever how she'll respond. Probably with shock more than anything since I have a bit of a fear of knives and blood!

P.S. Blueyedsoul you look stunning in your new avi! xxx

you will be surprised at her response! Honestly, I felt exactly the same about telling my mum.. now she jokes around with me after my appointments saying she wouldn't mind getting it done herself!!

best of luck xxxx

aw thanks hun, my old avi pic was 5 years old whereas this is only 4 months old so i thought i'd better update it!
next one will be boobies!! x

It must feel like a huge weight off even now before you even get the reply sweetness... What will be will be from today, but the hardest part is now over hun xx

thats true i agree with cookie, the hardest part is over, no matter what the reply is!!
x

good luck hun, let us know how it goes but as with most things in life, it's always easier than we seem to build up in our mind! xxx

Glad to see some other night owls around at this time!
So true newboobz and you're right Cookie, I do feel quite relieved now although still nervous.
Blueyedsoul, I've just done the same to my avi because my other one was pretty old But yes, the next one will be boobs!!! Woop woop! Couldn't have done all this without you girls! xxx

Good luck golidlockz, I know its been a difficult for you. Let us know how you get on x x

Fingers crossed for you xxx

Telling my stuff is always difficult so I know how you feel. My mum is completely against surgery and she has always said that I'm far to vein. It took me months to tell my mum I was pregnant because I was only 20. I ended up sending her an email because I was too scared to pick up the phone and tell her. She doesn't know I'm having a BA, I have mentioned it to her though. She wasn't pleased and then explained how much my non existant Boob's have bothered me for years. She had no idea it annoyed me so much. I even explained how I won't even let my partner see them because I'm so ashamed of them. We have not mentioned it to eachother since ( this was a few months back). We don't have a close relationship though and don't live near each other.

I totally understand how you feel and these things can be hard. Once you tell her though you will feel a million times better hun :-) xx

Hi girls,

Ruthaay, I'm sorry about how your mum responded. I think so many people are unable to see past the vanity aspect of cosmetic surgery to realise that there are often very good psychological reasons for wanting to have surgery. It's a real shame your mum wasn't able to see how much this would mean to you and how positive a change it would be. I really hope you have someone else to support you because it isn't an easy journey and knowing someone is there for you will help so much. xxx

Well girls, I could barely sleep after sending that email last night. I got up this morning to a reply I could not have anticipated from my mum, only because i couldn't stop thinking that she'd give me into trouble or be annoyed at me. She was so, so supportive. She said she understood my reasons and that she was happy I wanted to make this positive change to my life. She said that although she didn't like the idea of me going through something like this, she would be there to support me in any way she possibly could and she knows I will have researched thoroughly and looks forward to talking to me about it in more depth. I honestly could not have wished for such a positive lovely response. I love her so much! I think if I were in her shoes, my response would probably be similar but only because I am going through it myself. I feel so relieved and, I guess a little confused as to why I was worrying so much. Anyway, thank you all for being so supportive and encouraging me to do it. In my case (though obviously not everyone's) it was the right thing to do to tell my mum so I'm pleased I don't have to go through this alone. xxxxx

Oh I'm so pleased for you Huni xx I bet you feel better about it all now x

So pleased for you hun. You will enjoy ure booby journey more with ure mums support x

Thank you girls, I'm so thrilled to have her support and I've told her about the support i get from you girls too. I'm more excited than ever now (and found out in my weigh-in this morning that I lost 5lbs this week! Good start to the weekend!) xx

Bless your cottons chicken i am glad it all worked out for you. I am so close to my mum and love her to pieces but i just haven't told her because i know that she would not understand even with the whole tuberous breast thing x

Baly! It's your booby day! So excited for you!!! I understand that totally hun. I wasn't going to tell my mum so I can understand being so close to her but not wanting to tell her, it's a very personal decision. Enjoy your day!!! xxx

Booby day is done hhha. Went to theatre at 8 and woke up in recovery at 9 saying someone had good taste because they had a Will Young cd in haha x

Really?! That quick!? I'm guessing you've started another thread about it so I'm going to check that out now...xxx

Wow I'm so pleased for you & I'm glad your not alone in this now xoxo xoxo