I Haven't Told My Family Yet....

Hi Everyone,

My boob job is booked and I am counting down the time until I finally have it done. I haven't told my parents yet though. I have told my boyfriend and he supports me although he says he likes them as they are.

I am always going on about the fact I want plastic surgery but my dad always seizes up and has told me they thought of me morphing my body and changing myself makes him feel physically sick and he doesn't think it's right.

I havent yet told them about my decision as I want to pay him back what money I owe him before telling him of my large expense. But also it's a mini god send because I am SO nervous about telling them! I know they're going to think I am stupid and tell me I shouldn't be doing it, I also think they're going to be quite disappointed and upset with me.

How did you tell your parents??

I told my parents straight out, i sold my house and made quite a profit, i had always joked that i would have them done when i could afford it.
Was very up front with them, told them the size, who and where i was having them done and they were both great with me. Mums 72, dads 69.
I am having re op in December for pips taking out, explained to them both again and they both offered me £1000 each towards the cost.
Told them to spend the moeny on themselves credit cards come in handy lol.
they have never judged me and have always been very supportive, i have been so lucky.
Your parents will support you i'm sure x

Hello Mysty -- i had to answer this one because i've just been through it myself - at least with the female members of my family. i haven't told my dad yet and don't plan to for exactly the same reason you mention. but i have told my mum and although at first she said she thought i was having a mid-life crisis (!!) she understood eventually.

i started by telling her that i'd been thinking about it for a long time and had done lots of research and read lots of medical reviews and had several consultations (and looked at pictures of what happens when it goes wrong so i understood all the possible outcomes) so that she could see i really wasn't rushing into it or treating it as something trivial. then i explained my reasons for doing it, which as it involved the after-effects of breast-feeding she understood.

i had a harder time with my sister (see separate thread) but she too has come around after a rough patch.

in the end, your family love you and want the best for you. cosmetic surgery is such an electric word, with such bad connotations (problems, crazy celebrities!) that many people have extreme reactions to it and they may act initially out of worry or concern or just plain embarrassment. i'm sure when your family realise that you'll still be you, they'll be fine.

good luck!
xx

I'm 6 weeks post op and the only people who know are my hubby and my two best friends. Waaaay to scared to tell my parents. I actually think my dad would be fine with it but I can't stand the idea of a lecture from my mum in how I should/shouldn't spend my own money.

Depends on the relationship you have with your folks I guess and ive never shared personal stuff with my mum.
But hey, you don't have to tell them, wait for them to notice then it's already done or just tell them after. What they dont know can't hurt em.

I have a very open relationship with my parents... I just told them. Even sat down with mum showing her pictures of boobs I like lol

Tell them nearer the time Mysty, otherwise according to your ticker they've got 8 months and 3 weeks to try and talk you out of it, which could get rather stressfull!
I told mine from the start what I was planning on doing, I don't think they really took it seriously till I started travelling to consults and then booked it. I think they thought I didn't 'get' the seriousness of surgery, and my dad thought I should go to the GP and have them recommend someone for me, but he didn't understand that I've researched my BA for a long time so I'm hardly going to go to someone I've never heard of just cos they're a friend of the GP...

You don't need to tell them at all xx

Hi mysty...

I'm in the same position - have told my boyfriend and best friend and noone else. I will tell my mum before the date but not my dad - I just couldn't!! This shouldn't be a problem as they are separated. I think my mum would want to know, and I know shell keep asking questions etc when I'm off work and can't drive and I really don't want to lie!!

I really don't know how to tell my mum (I'm nervous now just thinking about it)
but I think the ideas mentioned above are great such as saying you've done
your research etc.

I hope it goes well for you whatever you decide to do...

Em x

I just didn't know how I was going to tell my mum - she thinks lots of the things that I do are a waste of money (waxing, facials, etc), but in the end while talking to her on the phone and she was complaining about her bunion and telling me she could have it treated privately but would cost her £2K - I just blurted out that I was having my boobs done for £4K - I think she was very shocked but realised I was serious - she then went on to tell me about someone she worked with who had had a breast reduction and that it was the best thing she had ever done, so I suppose that was her way of saying she understood how unhappy I was with my body.

I have told my brother and sister in law and they were fine with it - I thought they may have thought I was a bad role model for their 11 year old daughter, but they don't think she will notice.

I said to my dad that while I am under the GA maybe they could do a facelift or botox so I look good for daughter's wedding next year - his response was "you don't want to have everything lifted too high or you may end up with a beard"!!!

It is great that you are planning so far ahead Mysty that way you can really do your research well - but I wouldn't tell your parents until at least a month or two before your BA. Although maybe you could prepare the ground by letting them know how unhappy you are about your body by slipping in little comments. Best of luck x

I told my mum but only because I needed her to help looking after my little boy after my op. She didn't say a lot - we're not really that close. If I had an OH to help me out post op I wouldn't have said anything. I doubt my parents would even have noticed.

My parents were fine with it. I told my stepmum and she told my dad. He said as long as everything went well and I was happy and healthy he was okay with it. I wouldn't tell my dad outright because we just don't have those kind of conversations, but he even made jokes about my boobs the night before my op

I told both my mum and dad when I had my 1st BA, neither of them were happy about it and pulled every trick out of the bag in an attempt to change my mind. I know it was only 'cos they cared about me in their own way, but I do wish they'd have respected my decision. After my surgery it was never spoken of again. When I had a rupture and needed further surgery i decided not to tell them. The only people who knew were my husband and best friend and my breast buddies. I desperately needed support at that time and knew my parents would focus more on the 'I told you so' and I just don't need that.

Tell your parents if you 'want' to Mysty. You don't owe it to anyone or are oblidged to tell anyone you don't want to babe.

This is your surgery for you. If you want your parents involved, then tell them. If not, don't hun. xxx

Hey babe! i was too scared to tell my mum hahaha so i sent her a msg saying i wanted it done and she was absolutely fantastic about it all, obviously she told me i was perfect as i was but she would support me in any decision I made (you will be surprised how good they are when you tell them everything and include them in your thoughts on the matter etc)
However I have not told my dad about my BA, I have a good relationship with him and see him about once a week but i just felt like he didnt need to know (you cannot even tell I have it done when I have normal clothes on as it just looks like I am wearing my usual padded bras) I live at home and my mum took care of me the whole time, she wanted to tell him but i said I didnt want to so she respected my wishes (my parents are seperated)
You should do whatever you are comfortable with hun, maybe a little closer to the date you will feel more comfortable about telling them but in the end its really up to you xx

I was worried about my parents reaction but couldnt have been more wrong! They both listened to everything I had to tell them and have been 100% supportive

It's totally your choice who you tell about your BA hun, but you may be pleasantly surprised, I was x

Thank you so much everyone

I only posted this yesterday and already so much to read through what a wonderful response. I know mine isn't for ages but I have booked it and I am paying for it...sounds daft but 8 months seems like nothing to me after the 10 years I have waited for this. I am already planning a holiday for October next year so I can show off my new bikini body!! Bring it on I say!! No one will talk me out of this.

Funnily enough I can't talk to my mum about it at all CRINGE but my Dad I can talk to him. But he really really doesn't approve. I am close to my uncle so I guess I will tell him in the new year but I will probs not tell my parents for a good while.

I will prob email my dad, get the point across and then never mention it face to face again. We aren't really that close but I feel surgery is pretty major so I feel bad not even mentioning it!

TY again everyone I <3 this forum!!

My husband asked me how Im going to tell our adult son when he asks whats wrong with me, and I told him I was just going to say had my boobs fixed he has NO idea!! Cysts that showed up in an mamaogram that I had an said that there were fibrous cysts, was told that no worries just (but just keeping it very generic with no additional info) He doesnt know thats nothing.. its just what happens to us.